"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mood music?

Warrior74

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I'm putting together some new slow jam mixes so I want something new. I like a lot of old school RnB myself, but it's always good to change up the style. What sort of music/artist do you guys play when your at the crib with a chic? Does it change depending on her age, race, class?

I ask in this forum mainly because the guys here tend to date in a larger age range than in the regular forums and I'd like to know if there is any major difference in what you do with a 21 year old vs a 30+ woman.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Dedication

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Crib music? Sweet i'll lurk here for a little while longer.

Most of my "quality time" music is dutch so its of little use.
 

Mr. Me

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Rock music in bed.

Also, believe it or not, movie soundtracks are awesome. This may sound like a joke, but check out the theme for "The Mask of Zorro" Had a 30+ y.o. girl once just wanted it to loop all night long. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vt1EVBQnCo

Helps if you whisper a little Spanish in their ear. Doesn't matter what you say if they don't know Spanish.

Speaking of movie soundtracks, the opening theme to the movie soundtrack "Somewhere In Time" is WAY romantic. I like Enya too.
 

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If you are, say 3,4 dates in and looking to advance.....age 30+, I've had 100% success with Barry White.

Laugh all you want, but it works.
 

Andy_Dufresne

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Equally as effective: Frank Sinatra - actually works better as background (i.e. dinner music) than Barry, but kickass. Especially his romantic albums. Sammy Davis Jr. too.

If you think your hottie has even a slight clue who the Rat Pack was, you cant go wrong with this stuff.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Rounder

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30+ I like Babyface, Brian McKnight, some Keith Sweat....

I have a couple of mood CDs put together - includes some Kenny G and Jim Brickman along with the above.
 

Gangster Of Love

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Most of the best music I have found for "Mood" or "Ambiance" comes from some artists that are less known, a lot of world music on compilation cd's, coffee house music, lesser known tracks from well known artists, acoustic singers/songwriters, etc. I like making playlists on iTunes, and playing compilation cd's. Movie soundtracks are pretty good, specially the movie scores, with the instrumental music.

The girls, regardless of age, always ask, "Who's singing this?" "I like your music, who is it?".
 
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