Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Mood Changes All Over the Place

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In my journey, it happens that in certain situations I feel very confident and sometimes I feel bad about myself. Certain days I am very happy how things went for me in social situations and some days it just falls apart. I think I lack control in my days and I can't control my emotions. I change my emotions really quickly and can't seem to stay calm and cool. Sometimes I act very out-going (most of the times) and other times I feel down for no reason.

Sure, I can be happy for 1 day but on other day I just feel down. So many changes that I am experiencing is making me going all over the place. My emotions go up and down throughout the day.

What should I do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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War Against Betaism

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This is really common and there are ways to keep generating one state constantly. This happens because there are a collection of things that reminds you of one state, like being happy or outgoing, or even an action. Has anyone ever told you that a butterfly could change the way your day progresses? The key is to have something close to you that will always remind you of that state.

Here's one exercise that will help you:

Find a room where you won't be disturbed and turn your cell phone on silent (I don't get why people tell you to turn your cell phone off, no one's going to do that). Lie down or sit up straight while closing your eyes, and breathe in deeply, then out. Repeat this process for at least two minutes.

Next step is to recall those feelings of when you're outgoing or happy. Just bask in those memories and let it control you.

Next step is to constantly clench and unclench your fist. So while you're reliving those outgoing and happy memories, you're constantly clenching and unclenching your fist. After about 10 or 15 minutes, stop.

What you did was apply the emotions of feeling happy and being outgoing to clenching your fist. Here's an example of how it works. Whenever I hear the word bed, I immediately think of the words tired, relaxing, and comfortable. And then suddenly in that moment, I AM kind of tired, a bit relaxed, and am desiring of a bed. Want a better example? I bet if I talked about the girl you like you'll be smiling and happy :p

So by applying clenching your fist to being happy and being outgoing, all you have to do is clench your fist to be happy and outgoing. Though this is not going to work on the first try. You'll have to repeat this technique constantly for at least a month to work properly.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I actually have a huge problem with this. I've gone into "depression-like" states for up to six months where I'm simply fatigued all the time. When I am happy it's usually changing on a week to week basis. The times I am happy with myself and wild and confident - I'm amazing at everything i do (girls, job, sports, friendships). Unfortunately I can't seem to keep that a constant state.
 
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