Monk Mode

[Reykhel]

Has anyone ever done Monk Mode?

If so,
why did you chose to do it?
what was your experience like?
how long did you do it for?
did you benifit from it? how?
negatives?
would you recommend it?
any thing else...

I have a couple of reasons that I'm considering it:
1. Simply to take a break: from women, from the game. I seem to be talking about nothing but relationship/game talk. A little bit obsessed maybe. Yes I have plenty of other interests in my life but this seems to be my preferred subject.

2. To put more time into my other goals and self-development. Which I think I'm only given lip service to now. i could really take it to another level

3. To break a pattern of the past: I've started to notice that I have a replacement mentality with regards to my ex's. i don't know if I expalin that one properly but I wish to come at things with a more free mind and not one that is directed by the past.

4. To break a pattern of the past 2: I think I have a sex addiction. Granted everyone loves sex, we all think about it non-stop. I'm concerned that I'm in addiction. It's the only time that i can truly let go of thought and feel in the moment for this reason I never want it to end. I like to think I have standards...;but in reality I would probably fvck any chick rather than not fvck.......junkie? no problem.

5. To break a pattern of the past 3: I have a huge problem with using condoms. banged again Friday without. I had an appointment for an std checkup last month but didn't go. I should get that sorted and start again with a condom using mentality.
The thing is I'm hard constantly, ready to go. Put a condom on and I start to lose the erection. It has to be a mental thing. It's like my **** is saying to me "you're wrapping me in plastic? well **** you" Playing with fire without.

there's other reasons too but to paraphrase fightclub "I'm going to my cave, I'm going to my cave". I feel like going to my cave for a while

 

[SeymourCake]

 

[Chamber36]

I agree.

For me the problem is that I love to go out, drink and mack on chicks. When you do decide that u like a chick and want to see htem more regularly, they are a headache as well.

So for the sake of my health I've decided not to prioritize women so much anymore and to just do lots of training and studying.

To me, that's monk mode, and I might do it every few months to clear my head of women and their crap. Especially when I have exams. But when the mind is flexed too much, I still go out and drink, so that I can sort of rest my mind. It even helps me to study afterwards, because otherwise I can't unwind.

 

[Lozboss]

I've always been a proponent of this 'Monk Mode' following especially a breakup. Despite the number of people that think salvation lies in banging your way through as much p*ssy as possible.

Although I think every man should take time out to change things for the better. Women are a distraction and very few will be a net positive influence on your development.

I've currently just started my 'Monk Mode' and its removed so much stress from my life.

Important to note that Monk mode isn't- MGTOW.


By Monk mode I mean:

• No dating/ no plates, only you and yourself and your goals.
• Goal Setting and Achieving
• No Masturbation for 60 days (including any porn)
• Gym and Exercise
• 10 minutes daily of meditation/ time with your own thoughts.
• No more interacting with those 'friends' in your life who are selfish. Time to cut them out of your life for the better.
• Going ghost (FB/Social media). No stupid Gym posts. Drop off the map.

 

[Reykhel]

I've always been a proponent of this 'Monk Mode' following especially a breakup. Despite the number of people that think salvation lies in banging your way through as much p*ssy as possible.

Although I think every man should take time out to change things for the better. Women are a distraction and very few will be a net positive influence on your development.

I've currently just started my 'Monk Mode' and its removed so much stress from my life.

Important to note that Monk mode isn't- MGTOW.


By Monk mode I mean:

• No dating/ no plates, only you and yourself and your goals.
• Goal Setting and Achieving
• No Masturbation for 60 days (including any porn)
• Gym and Exercise
• 10 minutes daily of meditation/ time with your own thoughts.
• No more interacting with those 'friends' in your life who are selfish. Time to cut them out of your life for the better.
• Going ghost (FB/Social media). No stupid Gym posts. Drop off the map.

Yeah that's it more or less Lozboss.

I'm just not feeling myself at the moment and I need to get myself back and not sure it's possible without distractions.

I've just recently moved flat. I spent a lot of last month viewing places, going back and forth, back and forth and then making the move. I found out the extent to one of my "friendships" when a friend claimed he was too busy to give me a hand moving. The bum is in between jobs so he's no where near busy. Oddly enough a Bolivian chick who I only met a few weeks ago and who kinda friendzoned me...gave me a hand.

No dating/ no plates......yep a break
Goal setting....goals have kind of taken a backseat the last month
Gym and exercise.....I've not exercised in the last two weeks.....wow! how much this has knocked me off kilter!
Meditation.........I meditate daily.....what a difference it makes in my life.....however....I've not meditated in last two weeks! see above!
Time to cut ****e friends out of life: yes this is a biggy. This has been on my mind the last month.....two friends that I would spend the most time with are complete blue pill and it's been making me think "do I need to adjust myself/recalibrate to society? or fvck them, go Monk Mode and come back stronger...finde new friends or not, I stay true to myself...

Friend one I've lost all hope for him: He was in a relationship for 8 years and is split up 18 months, he met a girl on the net....in Colombia....spent over a grand going to see her for 5 days during the summber. He won't go out sarging here...Too much "respect" for women. She was supposed to come her in September but didn't. I asked him the other day "so you still crying over that Colombian? "no, I'm not crying.....I'm going to see her in November" Jesus Christ man on top of everything she has two kids!! Live and let live right? Maybe but the fvcker has started to critizise me while white knighting women...I'm a misogynist according to him. No he was not able to tell me correctly what the opposite of misogyny was.

Friend two who I spent more time with is worse: a complete white knight. defends women when where out together....defends them from me! I'll take the piss out of a girl.....him "Reykhel has a dark sense of humor" no phaggot it's just a little provocation...I've tried to "teach" him a few things but he's completley plugged in it's not possible. so self righteous. How can a so called Man raise the value of unknown women while knocking down the value of a so called friend. I sent him a couple of pictures of a couple of girls in our social circle "how would you rate them out of 10?" "ten!!" he replies. No mate, solid 8's maybe but here's why they're not 10's...(trying to get him to stop pedalising all girls). his response? his response was to send me an old foto of me and him and say "we can't really critizise them can we?" wow....the foto was taken one Saturday lunch time.....I had just come out of the gym and had been out the night before.....messed hair, sports gear........so I sent him one I had recently taken as a profile picture for whatsapp.....with the message "I'm a fvcking 10 you cvnt" his response was to ask me if i'd taken it for a gay website....

The point? Friends are supposed to build you up and inspire you to be your best. Well that's what I try to do with all of my relationships....bring positive energy and inspire people to be the best that they can. A social life should really have friendships that are like a "mutual appreciation society". I suppose that's why your social life should be a revolving door....let the bad leave and let other's enter..

How have I let these people into my life is what I need to ask myself. Address that and start again.

 

[ubercat]

Gone monk most of this year after I split from long term girlfriend in January. Main motivators work career and money I had a little bit of time between jobs last year and I wanted to get a head with my mortgage and try and save towards an investment property. Done both of those things. Also had a goal of getting into riding. I'd never been on a motorbike before. I've done my learners licence and bought a bike. Got a few goals to meet before the end of the year and I want to concentrate on building social Circle so ***** is going to have to wait. I am going to do online dating just to stay in practice but won't have much time so probably not many dates A man s purpose has to come first. Oh and I bought this old house which was trashed was pretty rough but it's a getting to the point where soon I can splash some paint around and it will look great. So The Bachelor Pad is forming. It's frustrating sometimes as I'm fighting on many fronts but its all coming together.

 

[Lozboss]

The hardest thing I'm dealing with is the isolation.

Not drinking means often not socializing. And no women means no intimacy.

It's tough at the moment.

 

[skinnyguy]

The hardest thing I'm dealing with is the isolation.

Not drinking means often not socializing. And no women means no intimacy.

It's tough at the moment.

Stop being dependent on puss.

Immerse yourself in work- love what you do. Focus on people who already love you not random sloots...

A lot of people don't drink and have full social lives. You don't have a friend circle it seems.

 

[JohnChops]

I think everyone has a different form of their "monk mode", here is mine.

Every now and again I simply just don't feel like interacting with women because I just had enough or I want to take a break. So what I do is take a break from sex, women, talking to them (except in friendly conversation) and just focus on myself. I'll hop into a new hobby, polish an old hobby, progress in other parts of my life. Then Ill come back, usually ends up me going out with a big group of friends, and having a great night out playing the field again.

this helps me, you can't go at something full throttle all the time 1) it will get to you 2) it will get plain out boring and youll question why youre doing this in the first place

 

[Lozboss]

Stop being dependent on puss.

Immerse yourself in work- love what you do. Focus on people who already love you not random sloots...

A lot of people don't drink and have full social lives. You don't have a friend circle it seems.

I'm not dependent. I'm being honest and saying the transition and learning to live without is a tough transition.

I'm doing the work and life immersion.

You don't really live in a capital city do you? Especially in the Uk, Socializing is often done with alcohol.

I have a friend circle- granted it could be bigger and some are in relationships but I'm working on that in between other things.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I'm in monk mode, I don't drink but I do head out and play pool and grab a juice lol. I actually gamed a cute lifeguard chick. Got her number. Now this is where I get sloppy. I know not to text her, I want to call her Monday late afternoon and say what's up this is my number blah blah blah. I think Monday late afternoon wouldn't seem to needy?

 

[ubercat]

Lozboss
Could u add some social sports to yr routine.
Club football or just some meetups if u don't want to commit for too long.

I belong to a couple of sports meetups Go every second week. That s enough to get to know people.

 

[Lozboss]

Lozboss
Could u add some social sports to yr routine.
Club football or just some meetups if u don't want to commit for too long.

I belong to a couple of sports meetups Go every second week. That s enough to get to know people.

Agreed- I used to play Rugby but this year with my MBA I can't commit the time to it.

Guess I'll just have to tough it out this year then jump back into it.