Money Issue

[martinM.]

I just started seeing someone about three weeks ago, i've seen her twice in the last three weeks. Anyhow i dont think i will be able to go out with her or see her for another two weeks due to me not having any money. I used the excuse of having to work a lot and taking exams the last time, which is true, but i could've easily made time. Last time we went out (saturday) i took her to out to eat but she insited we go to a park instead. I know we can just hang out without spending money, but i commute to school and work, about an hour away and she lives 30 miles from me and doesn't drive. Right now i need what little money i have now for gas.

What i need to know is what do i do about this? Do i tell her i cant see her because i dont have the money? Or...?

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

Just chill. You don't owe her any explinations.

And either way, it is better for her to wonder why you are not seeing her than her knowing why (regardless of why.)

But you can still see her without spending money.
Like you said, go to the park, or for a cup of coffee, or star gazing, etc...

Once she's hooked it won't matter that you don't have money, and since you are a student she'll probably expect it anyway.

 

[martinM.]

The two times we went out i picked her up, because she doesn't drive. I dont have the money to pick her up. Is seeing her once every two weeks to infrequent?

 

[Cashew]

No, seeing her once every two weeks is not too infrequent.

One of the girls I've been dating for several months now I only see once a week at most (and skip a week every month or so). Seeing them too much can be bad too early into the relationship.

Maybe you can get her to take the bus or other public transport to see you or meet you someplace. This will save you the gas money and also it forces her to invest the time/money/effort into seeing you which helps secure her attraction.

 

[martinM.]

I had to cancel on her 30 minutes after the date should have started because i was held over at work longer than i should have been. This would have been the 3rd date. Bad right?

 

[Solomon]

^^dawg don't feel bad, the whole world in a recission, I just got dissed lat week caus a girl thought I was a "broke hoe" lol, it's funny cause yeah I am broke I just moved and what not. But still if a chick is trippin about $$$ time to next or launch her

ya mean?

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Tell her if she wants to fvck with you. She gotta give you money.

Or, Just tell her your situation. You will be able to tell if she is a gold digger or not.

 

[Warrior74]

dood. you are so worried about this girl its pathetic. what is she, the only girl in your life? Well you know what to do about that right? Start gaming some that live closer. don't explain **** to her. NADA. Nothing. Don't mention your money to women until you've known them for a long time. Plus it gives her mystery to project her ideas and fantasies on. When she ask where you been or what you been up to say not much, working...busy...school...etc. Or ask her "what do you think I've been doing?" and shut up until she replies. Have fun with it. But don't go explaining yourself.

You are worried because deep down you feel that having no money means that you shouldn't have this girl. This is negative thinking, low self esteem, bad inner game. Fix that.

 

[martinM.]

Haha, i'm not worried about her knowing that i dont have much money, i'm pretty sure she knows that by now. I should have clarified a little more.

My main two questions were, if once every two weeks were too infrequent, (which was already answered), and if me cancelling the date thirty minutes after the date should have started was bad form.