^^Something to consider because I have been there myself but do you think it's possible you're depressed NOT because of things not going well in your life or other unfortunate circumstances....
But rather, you are not motivated or interested in doing much of anything and finding excuses to reject every suggestion given precisely because you are depressed.
Meaning the depression came first. Your feeling uninterested and unmotivated to do much of anything is a direct result of the depression?
Have you considered being evaluated by a doctor or mental health professional? Many people suffer from depression it's nothing to feel shame about (if you do), I've been there and so have a few other members of this forum.
I can't say for sure as I am not a doctor, just something to consider.
Take care of you.
I would say I was depressed in July; I would not say I'm depressed now, because I feel WAY better than I felt then.
I would describe my feeling now as "defeated" rather than "depressed". Back then, I was having multiple pieces of bad news hitting me one after the other, without a single positive, and it was hard to be optimistic about anything because I was wondering when that good thing would reverse into a bad thing.
I wouldn't say I'm "all good" now; my bank account is ticking down, and I haven't had income since April, but it's not nearly as bad as I was feeling then.
Some unsolicited advice:
If you only used SoSuave as your source for customers, then once the percentage of people who would sign up for coaching was exhausted, then that would kill your income, unless you get customers to pay monthly etc.
Being an entrepreneur is mostly about consistently finding new customers through any means necessary more than anything else.
Plenty of people have great ideas, but unless they get those ideas in front of the right people, nobody will know those ideas exist.
For every 100 people that see you (or your content) and know enough about you to want to see you again, maybe 1-2 will become paying customers.
And for every one person that sees your content and wants to see it again, there's maybe a few hundred who will see your content and never click on it again.
This means for every new customer you expect to get, you need to get your content in front of maybe a thousand new people.
That's the hardest and most time consuming part of any business.
Consistently pushing out content that reaches thousands of new people every few days.
Unless you start off with a HUGE group of people who know who you are, you'll never make much money out of the gate.
If you look at all the "gurus" on social media who are operating coaching businesses, they've been producing content for YEARS before they got enough people to make a living.
So if you are really serious about making money independently, you need to work a regular job for a few years WHILE spending all your free time making content and pushing it/marketing it like crazy anywhere you can.
I agree with you, and that's why I tried to expand outside the forum. I spent quite a bit of money working with a mentor who scales dating coaches - and some of them are quite successful - but what's "working" isn't what I'm selling; what works is skits with OF models while plugging Rainbet or DraftKings, or AI-assisted makeovers of dating app profiles - NOT going out into the real world and learning how to talk to women.
So I don't know; maybe my differentiator isn't one that most people value, especially with the painful feedback loop and modern risks that come with approaching women and getting rejected.
Not sure where your e-book was located, what it's contents were, or the manner in which you marketed it, nonetheless it may be wise to explore questions such as: "Did I advertise especially vigorously or/and craftily?", "Was my e-book written in intelligibly or was it disjointed and saturated in typos, spoonerisms, etc? Did I provide consumers with goods that can be practically applied out in the wild, or did I mostlly espouse theory?" MOST authors don't produce a best-seller right out of the gate. You may have to write a more compelling tome than your first effort
It was linked as the lead magnet on my website through my bio on all of my social media accounts (Instagram/YouTube/TikTok). They would provide an email, and it would be sent over, along with a follow-up encouraging them to book a call. I'd sent over the e-book to friends and family for evaluation before posting it. The purpose was to touch on various subjects that I'd cover in more depth through my coaching, while still offering actionable advice and general guidelines on how to progress from seeing an attractive woman you'd like to meet to actually going on a date with her, and how that date should go.
I don't think it's amazing or anything, but one of my friends shared it with his fiancée, who believed me to be a misogynist, and she now better understands me and respects that she previously believed I must be manipulative and a bit of an a**hole to be sleeping around the way that I do - so I'd say it was pretty good.
How many ads did you run, where did you run them at, and how many calls did you book? I know a few folks who are prominent executive/business coaches, and from what I've heard, no-shows are a frequent occurrence, even at THAT level. Sounds like you may be allowing yourself to be easily discouraged
I spent $388.90 running ads through Facebook and Instagram over a 3-week period. I had 144 opt-ins. Of that number, only 24 actually clicked the link and claimed the free e-book. Of THAT number 3 calls were booked, all of which no-showed. I also received 3 messages through Instagram, 2 of which never read my response, and 1 of which read my response but never replied. 1 guy reached out via email, but never replied to my response. And I had 1 guy book a call, telling me he couldn't afford to move forward if we were a good match, and when I asked him about that, he stopped replying.
Could be advisable then to note where exactly you're uploading this content, what this consists of, and which aspects of it may be repulsing consumers, rather than drawing them in
I was uploading the same piece of content on all platforms at the same time every day. I tried uploading at "peak" hours and saw no real difference. I used to upload to Facebook, which got me a lot of views, but never converted to follows. Before I stopped doing this, after a little more than 1 year I had around 400 followers on Instagram, 200 on YouTube, maybe 50 on TikTok, and maybe 1,000 on Facebook - but those were all people commenting that I'm wrong and disgusting.
Exactly how many times did this occur? We talking everytime you filmed, half of the time, once or twice? Dunno for sure, nonetheless I suspect most in the vocation you're pursuing have to this particular obstacle. This may just go with the territory
Only once, but it happened the second time I ever tried recording a genuine approach. After that, the friend who was recording told me he wasn't going to take that risk anymore.
Some of the guys in this space have shifted to the Meta glasses to record, but there are issues with privacy, where several of the guys my mentor was coaching were getting suspended or outright banned for trying to produce this content.
I saw one video where a guy with the glasses tries to hit on a cashier in a mall; she got so upset that he didn't delete the recording that she and her friend followed him, heckling him for being weird, involved mall security to escort him out, then had her boyfriend show up to prevent him from leaving until cops came so he could be trespassed.
These reactions might sound outlandish, but they DO happen.
And? You're going to let this deter you?
Those may be sacrifices a fella must make, if he's serious about prospering in this, or any other field really
Again, if you're among the few who's serious about serving those in need, I encourage you to NOT throw in the towel just yet
That's a lot easier to say from the outside, looking in. Delaware is small - I see these people every day: at the gym, at the bars, on social media - everywhere. I have been actively destroying my personal relationships in my everyday life to try to build relationships with total strangers online. Over the past year, I have spent thousands of dollars trying to build this, while occasionally earning hundreds.
The purpose of a business is to make a profit; otherwise, it cannot exist. I cannot afford to continue being this altruistic.
Granted, I haven't DELETED everything, just ARCHIVED everything at this point, but if you believe I'm throwing in the towel too early, when would be appropriate? I'm halfway to 33 and spent most of the money I'd saved up working my job trying to build a business that's barely paid me while STILL stuck living with my parents.
At what point should I go "maybe I'm sh** at this" and pivot to something else?
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