"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Moment in your life that made you decide to be a DJ

ShortyMac

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What was the one defining moment in your life that made you decide that you wanted to become a DJ?

I have my story, but would love to hear some of yours before I reveal mine
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nighthawk

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Hearing 'I'm a wonderful thing baby' by Kid Creole & The Coconuts when I was 14.

Cheers' Sam Malone played a big part too.
 

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Going into my senior year in college. I was your typical AFC, pretty much got rejected from every girl I pursued. Funny thing is, I'm actually a pretty good looking guy. I'd get girls interested at first, then once I came over with roses or whatever, I'd hear the "lets just be friends line" soon after. Or even worse not returning my phone calls. I think the worse was actually buying a camera for a girl that I only knew for a month! Lol, my buddies and I look back at that and can't stop laughing.

I went on a website, looking for some protein(bodybuilding.com) and stumbled on a thread called relationship help. There was a sticky lead by SauceHead which resembled a lot of ****y/funny and a lot of material that was like fastseduction.com. it was a lot like this one only smaller.

Well, the rest is history. I changed completely and my success with women (and people in general) skyrocketed. That was four years ago and hell, I'm still learning! I couldn't imagine never learning this material. Funny thing, I had no clue as to what I was doing wrong back when I was an AFC. I actually thought I was doing all the right moves, i just had bad luck with women. Well, it almost drove me nuts and i thought I was going to swear off women! Man am I glad I found these sites.
 

00Kevin

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I went from being an AFC to a DJ. Now I am just a man and I'm at peace with myself and everything in my life.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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comic_relief

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00Kevin said:
I went from being an AFC to a DJ. Now I am just a man and I'm at peace with myself and everything in my life.
exactly

Exact moment? Oneitis of six years breaks my heart.

comic_relief
 

Mistic

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When I decided that the agony of letting a hottie get away outweighed the discomfort of rejection.
 

ExcelNPrevail

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When I wasn't getting laid....that pretty much took a big toll on my inflated levels of testosterone. Also the lonely walks through the hallways made me feel pathetic, so I had to change.
 

synergy1

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Sandow said:
I went on a website, looking for some protein(bodybuilding.com) and stumbled on a thread called relationship help. There was a sticky lead by SauceHead which resembled a lot of ****y/funny and a lot of material that was like fastseduction.com. it was a lot like this one only smaller.
word, I posted on that during my early days. My screen name was Sehnsucht which is roughly the German equivalent for yearning or wanting - appropriate considering i wanted women and wasn't getting them at the time.

How I started. Well I was at a point in college where was just got fed up at my lack of game. Truthfully I couldn't even talk to girls, and was still flying the V card as proudly as a pirate ship dons its flag on its mast . Simultaneously, I was starting to kick my new working out routine into 5th gear and looking for pointers. Low and Behold, a few chaps name Saucehead and Sev were throwing around a bunch of posts helping dudes like me out. Eventually Saucehead got tired of replying to everyone, and made a thread that became the famous sticky.

At this point in time, I was waiting for my buddy's girl to dump him so I could take over...yes this is the Websters dictionary definition of AF Mother FucI<ing C. Everyone has a low point, and that was mine. Of course when she did dump him, she was already with another dude. I was, at best, the emotional tampon all those late night talks where I thought I was getting somewhere.

When I was passed up, I decided to dedicate myself to bettering myself indefatigably. Now I can only thank that ho for not going for me , otherwise I would have never sought help.
 

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It was right after my freshman year in high school. During my freshman year I went through alot of changes. Decided to actually start talking to girls, stop caring what people think, and start doing things that I wanted to do...It was a rough year especially when I was trying to come out of a shell when I had never even stuck my head out for a peak. I made some cool friends and loosened up just a tad, decided popularity was simply a figment of my imagination and said eff the world. :moon:

The summer after I decided to play tennis, and that's where I met her. Dam I thought she was "the bomb" (at the time I think people were still saying that :crackup: ) I tried, oohhh did I try, I tried harder than with any other girl, to this day I've never tried so hard. But nonetheless, KABLOOEY! Shot down each and every time.

And so, right before school started back I sat down at the computer one night (with tennis girl in mind) and googled "How to make her like you" and Viola! I came across this and another website. I stayed up all night reading article after article, destroying what I thought I knew. High school became the battle ground for which I fought for the right to my testicles and DJness. And I'll be a monkeys illegitimate uncle if by graduation I actually had a couple ounces of confidence, one of the hottest girls in the county (whom I am still good friends with), and a couple of testicles with spares at home.

And here I am. A junior in college, about to go into senior year of this thing. I'm still growing as a human and as a man. I've forgotten things and remembered things. Became a completely different person only to reinvent my self again and again. I'm still a young man, but I look back and realize how lucky I found this place when I was as young as I was as I feel I am MUCH happier and better off mentally, physically, and romantically than most men of today. And to this day I am still on the path of the DJ learning growing and having a dam good time. :D
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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