Molestation/rape=slvttiness/rough sex?

[tryin 2 play]

Had a brief 2 month fling with a girl who had a lot of issues. She informed me that she used to use sex to get guys to like her and only cared about sex etc etc. you know the type. This girl was great in bed and loved it rough ie choking pinning her down biting etc.

It comes out later that she was sexually abused as a kid and raped. Anyone have experience with this type of girl? What is it about that traumatic experience that makes some of them act slvttiness and almost want to relive their rape while having sex?? Very strange to me I'm sure it is some kind of psychological issue.

Any thoughts?

 

[Desdinova]

It's going to affect the woman in different ways, but it certainly will have an impact on their life. My ex-fiancee has abused as a child and she absolutely hated sex. She just laid there and waited for me to get it over with.

My ex-mistress who was abused by her uncle was a fvcking wh0re. She screwed around on her fiancee with me and a couple other guys.

 

[PeakIV]

just stay away from these people , it never ends in a good way.......

 

[Packers2010]

yeah.. i been with one of those girls. another one i went out with for a short time when i was a kid.

feels like i attract them

 

[Atom Smasher]

Had a brief 2 month fling with a girl who had a lot of issues. She informed me that she used to use sex to get guys to like her and only cared about sex etc etc. you know the type. This girl was great in bed and loved it rough ie choking pinning her down biting etc.

It comes out later that she was sexually abused as a kid and raped. Anyone have experience with this type of girl? What is it about that traumatic experience that makes some of them act slvttiness and almost want to relive their rape while having sex?? Very strange to me I'm sure it is some kind of psychological issue.

Any thoughts?

My theory is that perhaps she is in a sense reliving it in the subconscious hope that "this time it will turn out all right", in a sense negating what happened.

I picture a negative half-sine wave and the subconscious attempting to relive the experience but with a different emotional outcome to restore the other positive half of the wave in order to zero out.

It could also be her attempt to eradicate shame. I figure that a women who has expereienced that as a child must blame herself at her core, and reliving it is a deperate attempt to somehow find a different emotional outcome.

These are only theories, but one thing is for sure... Girls like this will torment you as time goes on. They are usually extremely damaged and they find many ways of making you pay for someone elses crimes from years ago.

I stay away from this because I don't want to be a part of further using her and reinforcing her self loathing.

 

[incognito42]

I'm sure she wasn't raped. Rape doesn't exist. Just ask some of the guys here. It's made up. Like the existence of dinosaurs. She's either lying about it to get attention or as a child she flirted too much and had it coming

 

[flashpoint]

I'm sure she wasn't raped. Rape doesn't exist. Just ask some of the guys here. It's made up. Like the existence of dinosaurs. She's either lying about it to get attention or as a child she flirted too much and had it coming

u r either being ironic or an idiot

 

[foreverAFC]

i went out with a girl like this back in the day, it was a horrible mistake. great to ****, but too damaged for a real relationship.

 

[Zarky]

Who cares really? There are two types of women, IMHO: easy and not-easy. How they got there isn't of much concern to me.