"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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zekko

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
I've always been told that I'm very attractive
Backbreaker said:
my mom, my family told me i was handsome until they were blue in the face...
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see.. that right there.. that one sentence, is why you are an AFC. I seriously, do not give a **** what anyone thinks about how I look because I know I look good. and not in a momma tells me i look good my entire life way, in a I put in the work in the gym and have a very strict diet way and I know that when I walk in a room i am usually in better shape and usually the best dressed man than any other man in the room and I do look like momma who is pretty lol way. If a woman rejects me, she has different taste than what I am. but i never for a second doubt that I am handsome/attractive. plus I get enough attention fro the opposite sex to know what your worth is. if you are not getting unsolicited attention form the opposite sex, welp theres your answer. get to work. if cute women aren't trying to befriend you, if girls don't stare at you every once in a while and smile, women do not see you as stand out attractive. and enough of that happens to me that I know that women think i very good looking. so if ONE girl rejects me, than that's not my problem. I know I am attractive becuase women gravitate towards me in some way. they want me to talk to them. I took my son to burger king about a month ago and the teenager cashier when I tried to pay told me not to worry about it with a smile. does **** like that happen to you? if it does not, than you are not hot.
This is my only problem with this thread. You guys have apparently both gotten a lot of positive reinforcement on your looks from a very young age.
The guys who are posting pictures here obviously have not. It's easy for you to say "don't seek reassurance" when you have already been given reassurance without asking for it.

Most threads I've seen are from guys insecure about their facial features, and they just want to know that they're maybe average and not hideous. Almost like some mild body dysmorphia. If these posters can pick up a little confidence from a message board, where's the harm?
 

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I agree with Zekko...I think a lot of the guys that make looks threads are just trying to confirm that they aren't fugly/deformed. They aren't looking for other guys to say "You're hot."

It's easy to think you're attractive when you've had women gawking at you your whole life or most of it. A lot of guys on here have never even had an UG check them out before.

I personally like NaughtyNinja's new thread that chances are, most guys are somewhere in the middle. I've had girls tell me I'm goofy/creepy looking, then had better looking women making out with/fooling around with me. The idea for the guys who are insecure about their looks is to realize this. As long as you don't look like this guy lol, chances are you're attractive to someone.

http://i213.photobucket.com/albums/cc305/Beckett20and7/timlol.jpg
 

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rhcp83 said:
As long as you don't look like this guy lol, chances are you're attractive to someone.

http://i213.photobucket.com/albums/cc305/Beckett20and7/timlol.jpg
Ah crap. So much for that. I kind of look like dude. :yes:

My hairline is better but I have red hair so got'em need'em I guess. I'm probably taller but also fatter.

That said, even if you look like him (or me) you are still attractive if you know what to say.
 
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