"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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I've been seeing a lot of moistness on this board. Is this a womans dating website? No. So why are you guys posting up pictures on here for others to judge. Unless you plan on getting plastic surgery then just deal with your looks. If you think your skinny.... go to the gym. If you have bumps on your face.... go to a dermatologist.

You really might not be the best looking person in the world but so what? You can still bag plenty of girls. You need to make sure you have game. Game = Confidence x Intelligence. Get your confidence up and you will see a big difference on how you interact with the females. Trust me on this.

You guys are acting like little pretty boys (no pun intended). Posting pictures.... how do I look?.... That sh!t is moist and suspect.

Who gives a f*ck. Get your goddamn game up PERIOD. Instead of posting pictures of yourself here. Go to the gym.. get bigger or slimmer. Do something productive.

That's my two cents for the month of March. Now it is Thursday night guys. Let's all party tonight and get some girls.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
I've been seeing a lot of moistness on this board. Is this a womans dating website? No. So why are you guys posting up pictures on here for others to judge. Unless you plan on getting plastic surgery then just deal with your looks. If you think your skinny.... go to the gym. If you have bumps on your face.... go to a dermatologist.

You really might not be the best looking person in the world but so what? You can still bag plenty of girls. You need to make sure you have game. Game = Confidence x Intelligence. Get your confidence up and you will see a big difference on how you interact with the females. Trust me on this.

You guys are acting like little pretty boys (no pun intended). Posting pictures.... how do I look?.... That sh!t is moist and suspect.

Who gives a f*ck. Get your goddamn game up PERIOD. Instead of posting pictures of yourself here. Go to the gym.. get bigger or slimmer. Do something productive.

That's my two cents for the month of March. Now it is Thursday night guys. Let's all party tonight and get some girls.
Telling the board that they are acting like little pretty boys....this coming from a guy whose screen name is PrettyBoy AJ!

Hypocracy at its finest....

PS. If your as tough as your trying to be, you wont even be phased by my post and wont bother posting a reply.
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
You guys are acting like little pretty boys (no pun intended)
I'm curious as to what this 'pun' is. Surely not that your name is PrettyboyAJ and that you are talking about 'Pretty boys' because that is terrible and I'm not even convinced it is a pun.
 

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I agree that men shouldn't ask other men here how they look. Go to Hot or Not if you want your photo judged. I think the very fact that a man would post a photo here is a much stronger indication of their problem than their looks (or screen name).
 
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They're just asking for feedback so they can improve their look. I see it no differently to people asking advice on their game or any specific situation.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
I've been seeing a lot of moistness on this board. Is this a womans dating website? No. So why are you guys posting up pictures on here for others to judge. Unless you plan on getting plastic surgery then just deal with your looks. If you think your skinny.... go to the gym. If you have bumps on your face.... go to a dermatologist.

You really might not be the best looking person in the world but so what? You can still bag plenty of girls. You need to make sure you have game. Game = Confidence x Intelligence. Get your confidence up and you will see a big difference on how you interact with the females. Trust me on this.

You guys are acting like little pretty boys (no pun intended). Posting pictures.... how do I look?.... That sh!t is moist and suspect.

Who gives a f*ck. Get your goddamn game up PERIOD. Instead of posting pictures of yourself here. Go to the gym.. get bigger or slimmer. Do something productive.

That's my two cents for the month of March. Now it is Thursday night guys. Let's all party tonight and get some girls.
This man speaks the truth.
 
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Vice

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The time spent uploading photos, posting a thread, and fretting about your looks could be better spent GOING OUT TO THE FIELD.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I agree with OP..why should a guy ask a bunch of random guys to rate his looks?
 

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something else about pictures:

it's a ****ing two dimensional picture. you don't really look like that.

personally almost every picture of me is terrible, and yet i'm considered somewhat good-looking irl

there is much more to physical attractiveness than how good of a picture can you take
 

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I don't know where to start.

First, a guy that calls himself a pretty boy telling others to stop caring about looks and focus on game?

Also, this whole "get game" "go to the gym" thing is bs.

Going to the gym is a good thing IF you're doing it for yourself, not with any ulterior motive (try to get a certain type of body just to get laid.)

"Game" is a myth. Women don't care how you speak if you don't pass their initial looks test. If they don't like what they see, they aren't going to give you the chance to speak. You can fvck up an opportunity with negative game, saying the wrong things, being needy etc., but they have to like what they see first, even if you aren't a model, you have to be attractive to them.

It's easy for some guy that is *supposedly* a pretty boy telling other guys not to care about looks.
 

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Ok... something is not right.

Firsts of all.. LOOKS do matter... A LOT!!! If you tell me it doesn't you are a hypocrite.

And second, there's nothing wrong with asking input on how they look. I personally dont mind since I work with visual art all the time.
 

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rhcp83 said:
I don't know where to start.

First, a guy that calls himself a pretty boy telling others to stop caring about looks and focus on game?

Also, this whole "get game" "go to the gym" thing is bs.

Going to the gym is a good thing IF you're doing it for yourself, not with any ulterior motive (try to get a certain type of body just to get laid.)

"Game" is a myth. Women don't care how you speak if you don't pass their initial looks test. If they don't like what they see, they aren't going to give you the chance to speak. You can fvck up an opportunity with negative game, saying the wrong things, being needy etc., but they have to like what they see first, even if you aren't a model, you have to be attractive to them.

It's easy for some guy that is *supposedly* a pretty boy telling other guys not to care about looks.
do you realize how many guys prove you wrong every day? ive seen it with my own eyes. by your logic ugly guys cant ever get hot girls, but ive seen it constantly. the problem with this site is that guys like you post their field reports or whatever and we give you advice,but so what? its text on a screen. we cant physically witness what you are doing wrong or right. This **** is all about subtleties and you can't convey those through text. I really think you could benefit from a bootcamp, cuz you seem to need a lot of help.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Moistness?

rhcp83 said:
Going to the gym is a good thing IF you're doing it for yourself, not with any ulterior motive (try to get a certain type of body just to get laid.).
I tend to agree and I know what you're saying. But if going to the gym is a good thing, does it really matter why you're doing it, as long as you do it? You still get the health benefits, and a little motivation can't hurt.

rhcp83 said:
"Game" is a myth. Women don't care how you speak if you don't pass their initial looks test. If they don't like what they see, they aren't going to give you the chance to speak. You can fvck up an opportunity with negative game, saying the wrong things, being needy etc., but they have to like what they see first, even if you aren't a model, you have to be attractive to them
Game seems to be largely about taking opportunities when they arise and how not to screw them up. But I have this nightmare where we are raising a whole generation of men to all be the same C&F guy.

rhcp83 said:
It's easy for some guy that is *supposedly* a pretty boy telling other guys not to care about looks.
That did cross my mind.
 

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I am secure in my heterosexual lifestyle. I don't care or feel "gay" by helping another guy out with how he looks. We are all friends. Love and peace to all.

If it makes you feel weird personally, then go ask some girls.
 

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zekko said:
Moistness?


I tend to agree and I know what you're saying. But if going to the gym is a good thing, does it really matter why you're doing it, as long as you do it? You still get the health benefits, and a little motivation can't hurt.


Game seems to be largely about taking opportunities when they arise and how not to screw them up. But I have this nightmare where we are raising a whole generation of men to all be the same C&F guy.


That did cross my mind.
lol i know both of you are white. no offense meant by that, but game i not "taking advantage of opproutniies". game is the ability to talk to a woman and get her to do what you want, to make a woman wet. there is definatly a such thing as game and most men here have none.

game is the ability to get a woman who really wasn't looking at you by the end of the conversation to give you her number and have her waiting by the phone for you to call her.

I remember at a high school basketball game, my dad had come to watch me play. It was before our game he had got there early, my dad prides himself on how much game he has.. and he has a lot of game honestly. and there was this woman there in the standsd by herself, i don't know who she was but she was alone. my dad is always telling me and my two best friends how much game he has and so we dared him to go talk to her.. i'll be damned if in 10 minutes he didn't have her phone number and she was sitting next to him the entire game. that's game.

as the saying goes, a man falls in love through his eyes, a women through her ears. go back and listen to any standard love song and she is never talking about how she loved what she saw, she is always talkinng about how "he told me" or "i believed what he said" or something along those lines. that's game.



as far as the gym, dude get a freaggin clue lol. as a married man, who.. actually just got back from the gym about 30 minutes ago, i spend about 15 hours a week in the gym or in the swimming pool or on the exercise bike and have since i was about 22... i get strong IOI's or just flat out talked to by....at least... 10 women a month. more or less. and i have a wedding band on. half the time i have a 3 year old with me in toe. about 2 months ago i went and ordered a pizza and when the pizza was ready the cashier said "be sure to read the receipt closely" and she had her phone number on the back of it. not the first time that has ever happened. and while i have some game,l this is just.. off me looking bad ass and ripped. women dig a guy who is in shape and it makes your life / job / game 1000x easier. if you want to make excuses as to why you don't want to go to the gym and get in shape be my guest but it works.

and i don't know why everyone is ****ting on PrettyboyAJ he knows his stuff. you'd be wise to listen to him.
 

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Who gives a f(ck what the man's username is. He is solid contributor to the board and is giving good advice here.

Stop whining or worrying about this and that, and instead how bout doing something about it that produces results?
 

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lol i know both of you are white. no offense meant by that, but game i not "taking advantage of opproutniies". game is the ability to talk to a woman and get her to do what you want, to make a woman wet. there is definatly a such thing as game and most men here have none.

game is the ability to get a woman who really wasn't looking at you by the end of the conversation to give you her number and have her waiting by the phone for you to call her.

I remember at a high school basketball game, my dad had come to watch me play. It was before our game he had got there early, my dad prides himself on how much game he has.. and he has a lot of game honestly. and there was this woman there in the standsd by herself, i don't know who she was but she was alone. my dad is always telling me and my two best friends how much game he has and so we dared him to go talk to her.. i'll be damned if in 10 minutes he didn't have her phone number and she was sitting next to him the entire game. that's game.

as the saying goes, a man falls in love through his eyes, a women through her ears. go back and listen to any standard love song and she is never talking about how she loved what she saw, she is always talkinng about how "he told me" or "i believed what he said" or something along those lines. that's game.



as far as the gym, dude get a freaggin clue lol. as a married man, who.. actually just got back from the gym about 30 minutes ago, i spend about 15 hours a week in the gym or in the swimming pool or on the exercise bike and have since i was about 22... i get strong IOI's or just flat out talked to by....at least... 10 women a month. more or less. and i have a wedding band on. half the time i have a 3 year old with me in toe. about 2 months ago i went and ordered a pizza and when the pizza was ready the cashier said "be sure to read the receipt closely" and she had her phone number on the back of it. not the first time that has ever happened. and while i have some game,l this is just.. off me looking bad ass and ripped. women dig a guy who is in shape and it makes your life / job / game 1000x easier. if you want to make excuses as to why you don't want to go to the gym and get in shape be my guest but it works.

and i don't know why everyone is ****ting on PrettyboyAJ he knows his stuff. you'd be wise to listen to him.
Cool story bro. No need to qualify yourself to us.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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