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tj
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I think if a mod is going to delete a post-they should send a pm to explain.
thnks
thnks
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
So when "iluvd!ck69" posts nothing but links to tubgirl, we should send them a PM saying;
"Excuse me iluv, but your posts are unsuitable for this forum. They have been deleted. Please be better in the future.
- TheVirtualMind"
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Besides, we do that anyway to posts that are questionable. Otherwise, posts that don't need explanation ("Sosuave sucks d!ck" ring a bell to anyone?) are just ninajed.
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
No VirtualMind, Its when my valid post in STR8UP's guide to riches gets deleted we should be asking questions.
diablo
Master Don Juan
I just checked the list of any actions taken on "STR8UP's beginners guide to becoming WEALTHY". It hasn't been touched (no replies have been deleted, it hasn't been moved, closed, etc etc). It may be an issue with your computer or the server; I don't think any moderator is bored enough to go around arbitrarily deleting random posts for no good reason.
As for sending a PM to people every time their thread is closed or deleted, it would be more time consuming than you'd imagine. It takes enough time for me to include a link to a results page every time I close a thread by saying "try a search, please" (after doing a search for them)... if people can't follow the directions under the stickied thread titled "Read this BEFORE posting or your thread may be deleted!" then they shouldn't be shocked when lo and behold their thread is gone. Most deleted threads were deleted for a reason, anyway - either they asked a question that had been answered a million times before (i.e. "How long should I wait to call her?", "What should I do on our date?") or they appeared to have been written by a person in the 3rd grade (i.e. "If a girl wears nice clothes does it mean she's a golddigger?" - an actual thread I deleted earlier today..). Generally speaking, the threads that (I) delete are short, stupid, inappropriate, or just plain mindless. Oh, or they're one sentence threads - but a pretty good guideline for what gets deleted is already laid out in the thread I mentioned that's stickied at the top of DJ Discussion.
LowPlainsDrifter
Senior Don Juan
I think Diablo does more in the way of explaining why thread actions have been taken than most other moderators.
Technically, no moderator has to do this, but it helps to dispel notions of arbitrariness and enhances the community by illustrating what to do and not do in a thread.
Technically, no moderator has to do this, but it helps to dispel notions of arbitrariness and enhances the community by illustrating what to do and not do in a thread.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just to back up what Diablo said The Mods are empowered to delete any thread that they feel do not contribute to the ongoing discussion.
That is not to say that threads or topics are arbitrarily deleted. Sometimes unbeknownst to the community posts are discussed and debated before deletion. I have deleted many threads over the last 4 years and on retrospect I would not restore any one of them.
There have been so many complaints about bad threads. It's usually the trolls who cry out when their threads are deleted.
Make good posts and DJ's will read and respect them. Write quality posts and make it into the DJ Bible. Write poor posts and they will be deleted (for the sake of the DJ community).
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tj
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My post was about a dj article recently in a rather upscale mag. I can't see the harm in that...if any thing it adds value to the board
If highplanes and godsgift want to pm me, I will tell then where to find the article...I found it quite interesting.
Obvioulsy, the moderators could care less about listening to our side about making the board better. I think the use of "troll" is rather insipid and demeaning term to be used by a "dj"... I will let that speak for itself.
Good day gents.
If highplanes and godsgift want to pm me, I will tell then where to find the article...I found it quite interesting.
Obvioulsy, the moderators could care less about listening to our side about making the board better. I think the use of "troll" is rather insipid and demeaning term to be used by a "dj"... I will let that speak for itself.
Good day gents.
diablo
Master Don Juan
If your thread simply has a link and some generic message body like "discuss this article", it obviously doesn't mean a whole lot to you - or you would have told us more about it. If you can't even give a good opinion on it how do you expect others to? While I don't recall the particular thread in question, I would be highly doubtful that a thread containing a link in which the poster discussed what his views were on the article in question would be deleted.
Like I said before. Some people (insert name here) post because they seek attention.
If you are not a troll or trolling then you should ignore this entire thread. If you are trolling then of course you reply to get the attention that you are not getting in the real world.
Giovanni Casanova
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A thread complaining about moderators?
How inspired and original!
How inspired and original!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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tj
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actually, this is not what this thread is about at all. Please go back and reread the first initial post.
I think Diablo did a fine job illuminating the mods position.
However, if you have nothing better to do on my threads than misinterpret my operandi and try to start an arguement with me-whilst hurling immature comments like this-A true dj should have better things to do. I ask that-for your own good-please don't post unless you add can something of value to my threads.
Besides Giovini-I refuse to attack those that cannot defend themselves. Peace.
Good day gents!
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