"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Models - A great book to understanding and correcting neediness

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I read this book, quite good but in my opinion too long. He could easily discuss those concepts simpler without all this fluff.

Also I don't agree with few core issues mentioned there, but it is obvious that author have experience and great lifestyle beyond chasing pvssy.
 

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What he says about vulnerability could really be a breakthrough for me.
I remember that I used to open up to girls when I was 15. I was simply honest because I wasn't highly invested. And I was young and we basically trusted each other more easily.

I used to, for example, give girls all the compliments I wanted to, when I was 15. I tried pick-up-artistry from the nice-guy angle. Sometimes it worked. I couldn't comprehend how seemingly "AFC" statements could work well sometimes, and not at all other times. While pondering the successes I realised it was the honesty and vulnerability that attracted the girl. These girls probably either genuinely liked me or thought I was cute and decided to give me a break.

So I'm thinking there might have been a neo-AFC that arose in me lately, withholding me from expressing myself freely. Making me act in the opposite way of a textbook AFC, but at the same time just acting like an insecure macho-man, who's afraid to express his feelings. Trying to act strong and aloof might just make you come off macho.

Whether you're afraid to tell a girl something about yourself, or whether you're afraid to escalate kino, it's all AFC.

The PUA industry is really expanding. I'm glad they're getting more into the emotional and spiritual connecting that's going on throughout the sub-context of the seduction.
 
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I agree with chamber, I don't think being an AFC is at all about being alpha. Many guys are just naturally not alpha, and it comes off horribly when they try. Not being an AFC is more about just not being needy, not being afraid of girls, not being afraid to step up to the plate, but also holding strong when the time calls for it. Its not about being macho, but more about just not being a pushover.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I started reading this book, but he doesn't seem to know what the word "vulnerability" means and seems to be confusing it with confidence. It's quite confusing.
 

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Meaning of Vulnerability depends a lot on the context here. IMO vulnerability is that you might get a negative feedback on something(rather anything, be it opening, commenting etc). And the Trick is to be indifferent. It doesnt matter if I open a group of 10 girls or Im talking to the dog and not the owner of the dog who happens to be a gorgeous women. Indifference combined with vulnerability = attraction. Now getting that indifference is not easy. Im still working on it.

@Aron: No Im not the author, just wanted to share something I thought is valuable.
 

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This is a good read. I really agree with a lot in here about the PUA stuff. Lol, some of the people in this book remind me of myself at points and friends of mine. This is a good eye opener.
 
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