"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mo' Skillz/Mo' Problems

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We all know the BASIC problems that beginners have, like how to approach, what to say, how to escalate, and so forth.

If you think your love life will simplify as you get more skills, you're wrong! The better you get, the more messed up your situations will get. Here's my favorite:

One evening, I'm hanging with SHBDancer (9.9), a dance student at the NYU Tisch School of The Arts, right before she's leaving for college, and spending the summer in Manhattan in June. I'm up on the roof of my building with her and her boyfriend, who had been passed out half the night while I was having a GREAT conversation with his chick. They had spent ten days in a row in his apartment before he went back home for the summer, and barely came up for air. After he woke up, he was in a funk, and just sat there saying nothing while I continued to game his chick, very successfully.

We go up to the roof, and while he's still drunk, he goes over to the ledge, nine stories up, and begins DANCING on it. One bad step and he's a goner, and he's scaring the crap out of me. Fortunately, nothing happened, but I realized, if something had happened, his dead body would have been in the courtyard of the building, with me and his girlfriend sitting up on the roof.

The question I have here is what should I have told the police had he fallen to his death?

As I said, this is NOT a problem a beginner will have.

Anyone else have an "advanced" problem they'd like to share?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I agree more problems arise as you get better, because there are simply more opportunities.

But I don't see how this story has anything to do with having advanced skills in your game. Are you saying never will an AFC being strung along by his "soulmate that he can't life without, but she has a boyfriend she's totally gonna leave for him any day now" couldn't be in this exact situation?

Personally, my thoughts are that if you were that advanced, you would have been hanging out with her without her boyfriend there, and it wouldn't have been an issue.

To answer your question of what you should have told the cops if it happened.... the truth? I don't see why you would say anything differently, especially if the truth is what will clear your name (assuming they believed you). Should have propped your phone up somewhere with the camera recording him.
 
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I agree more problems arise as you get better, because there are simply more opportunities. But I don't see how this story has anything to do with having advanced skills in your game.


Getting a super-elite to hit on you in front of her boyfriend (as in REALLY hit on you), is pretty decent, by most standards. This was also the beginning of what was easily my biggest screwup. My problem was that I had too many other live targets (SHBTakeout and “Le Club” from my book, with the latter only fifteen years old at the time, so I was waiting on her to age), so she was just one of several opportunities. I kind of took for granted that we’d hook up, and even ran some “Kasparov sheet” on her (outlined in the book) where I left her a note after learning she was living near the chess tables in Washington Square Park (I learned this from her answering machine after looking up her # unknown to her). Acted like I saw her on the street and told her to come by one day I was there with friends (I lived in Philadelphia by then). Two weeks later, she calls me, saying “I was looking for you EVERY DAY at the tables! Clearly I had the lay. Six more missed opportunities later, she moved on.

We were never in the same city at the same time. As for this, having game doesn’t mean I’m going to steal a chick from a male friend. He did wind up cheaing on her which is when I began pursuing her seriously. Oh yeah, she also came by my home on a Saturday night to pick up a paper I typed for her (three pages, I’m a pro typist and she could have done it herself), but I was 3-0 in a big tournament, tried to do both, missed both. The errors were comical.

Want a more messed-up problem? Le Club’s MOM tells me she’s going to be at a psychic fair four blocks from my home, and asks me to come by. Like an idiot, I brought MY mom, figuring it’d be a good chance for potential in-laws to meet. She was 48 and hot; I was 22.

Are you saying never will an AFC being strung along by his "soulmate that he can't life without, but she has a boyfriend she's totally gonna leave for him any day now" couldn't be in this exact situation Personally, my thoughts are that if you were that advanced, you would have been hanging out with her without her boyfriend there, and it wouldn't have been an issue.


A true soulmate candidate won’t have another guy while she’s checking you out. I did get a chance to hang out with her after this – several, in fact – and blew every one, for various reasons. I succeeded with other targets though so it’s all good. When you’re that advanced, even one super-elite won’t preoccupy you, at least not after your soulmate burns you. Once I was up in NYC and saw her outside her dorm. She asks me to hang out and I say no there’s a (meaningless) chess tournament that evening. I wanted to be consistent, since the “chess gimmick” (my alpha gimmick) is what attracted her. I was WAY too confident that things would “just happen,” but I had reason to be.

To answer your question of what you should have told the cops if it happened.... the truth? I don't see why you would say anything differently, especially if the truth is what will clear your name (assuming they believed you). Should have propped your phone up somewhere with the camera recording him.


Oh yeah like they would have believed me! I’m glad I didn’t have to test your advice!
 
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