mmm can anyone help me figure out this dilemma?

[morisson]

experts say that your should treat a girl with the mindset that she is being "blessed" to be with you, and that you are the prize that she is going after, not the other way around.

okay. so when you as a guy make the approach to a girl and not the other way around, aren't you conveying the message that you are showing the interest first and by this you hand her the power in the forthcomnig stages, with you concieved as the pursuer and her concieved as the prize?

how would you approach a girl and still maintian your "prize" position?

i'd really like the experts here to help me figure this one out!

cheers,
morrisson

 

[NewMan]

Because you don't jump through hoops to get her.

Look, you approach her yes, but your not following her around like a dumb a## - your not "Being there" for her like a chump......

She says no thank you, you WALK AWAY - end of stroy.

Your giving her an opportunity to be part of your life. She says no, no big deal, you walk away.

Where are you giving her the power? Your not being a symp to her - your not putting her on a pedestool.

thats where you lose it.

So to answer your question - to maintain your "Prize" attitude, by not basing your happiness on her answer. You take it or leave it, because you know, as a DJ and Man there are plenty of other hotties out there for you.

 

[salsipuedes]

Originally posted by morisson
experts say that your should treat a girl with the mindset that she is being "blessed" to be with you, and that you are the prize that she is going after, not the other way around.

okay. so when you as a guy make the approach to a girl and not the other way around, aren't you conveying the message that you are showing the interest first and by this you hand her the power in the forthcomnig stages, with you concieved as the pursuer and her concieved as the prize?

how would you approach a girl and still maintian your "prize" position?

i'd really like the experts here to help me figure this one out!

cheers,
morrisson

When you approach a woman, it simply means you find her PHYSICALLY interesting, yet mentally, you have no idea if shes valuable or not, and that is why she has to prove to you that mentally she can match the beauty of her body.

Think about it, we humans care deeply about how we as persons are valued by others, i bet you a million dollars that if you could have a ton of hot women loving you and wanting to be with you even if you where ugly, you would prefer that to being awesome looking yet a total screw up with women.

She has to show you her mind matches her body, otherwise, shes just another beautiful face thats not worth anything, just a piece of ass, exactly what women fear the most.

 

[morisson]

thanks guys and BUMP!

 

[MacAvoy]

Also when you approach confidentally, you are saying that HEY I know what a great catch I am, but I am here to see if you are more than just another pretty face and worth my time. When you do it this way, you are not giving up any power and actually keeping control of the situation.

After all if we all waited women to come to us, the only date we'd ever have would be with Palmala.