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MMA training and bulking

danro

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So, I've started training Jiu Jitsu at the moment, and it's one hell of a workout. After my first day my entire body was sore for 2 days (ouch). I train 2 days a week, tues. and thurs.

I'm wondering if I should keep lifting while training, or should I wait and just do conditioning and cardio while I learn how to fight, and once I have a handle on it start lifting again. And if I do lift, what days should I. I currently lift 4 days a week doing chest/triceps one day, legs another, shoulders another, and finally back and biceps. I was also wondering what days I should lift, because I want to avoid overtraining. Any suggestions would be helpful.
 

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Bible_Belt

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For mma, it is ok to lift, but do light weights and high reps. People I train with lift in sets of 15.

If you spent enough time on the mat doing body weight exercises, you don't really have to lift weights; they are just different ways of achieving the same goal. If you want to fight, you really need to roll regularly for six months or so before you get in there. That will help a lot.
 

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Thanks a lot. Will rolling, doing mat body weight excercises, and lifting at higher reps with less weight help me bulk though? I want to go up a weight class so I can fight in the lightweight division (I'm a little guy :( haha), maybe even welterweight if I can put on a good amount of weight. I guess I should reword my question really. How should I bulk while training MMA and make sure I'm not overtraining?

Thanks a lot Bible_Belt, if you have any mma tips can you give me some? haha.
 

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If your active in the martial art then you'll need to set your training up in cycles based on your season (when you'll be having your fights). Mass training for size is tough to do while actively involved in the activity at 100%, so you'll do that during your off season.
 

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i would wait til you get adjusted to the training before you go back to hitting the weights. i started training in jiu jitsu and muay thai about 7 weeks ago, and i don't plan on going back to the iron til school starts in the august. that being said, if you are trying to bulk, you should NOT be doing higher reps, you should be doing a more powerlifting oriented regime. For martial arts, you want functional strength, not the bs size a bodybuilding workout will give you.

Oh, also, if you are planning on actually fighting, you will eventually want to start training more than twice a week. if you are trying to bulk while doing this, be prepared to eat like an absolute animal. i train 5-6 days per week right now and i am ravenous all the time, it's tough to keep my weight at around 145-150.
 

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MSwrestler

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You want functional muscle for mma, with endurance and elastivity. Do pushups, pullups and body weight workouts, do them fast and as many as you can a set and you will notice your muscle endurance will be amazing. Cardio is very important for mma as well, you have the ability to last.
 
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