"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mixed signals

HalfAddict

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I met this girl through a friend of mine and im quite attracted to her. She always compliments me saying "im great" im a hottie cutie, she even came up with one of those cute ass nick names chicks give their boyfriends. she gave me her number... all three of them. But everytime I set up a date she cancels on me. Is this some kind of ****ed up test or should I just move on?
She has cancled on me twice in the last month.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Joe The Homophobe

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Im no expert on mixed signals but
1. the nicknames: She sees you more as a cute friend rather than boyfriend material. When a girl wants it with you they aren't that obvious giving guys silly little nicknames, why? because it would put the ball in your court, it would mean that she is raising the white flag saying you can have her if you want her. Girls want us to win them over, they don't make their intentions obvious.

look at it this way.
guy tells girl shes cute = he wants her, he knows it and she knows it, this is the intention of when a guy says this
girl tells guy hes cute = thinks you're ok, thinks you're nice, but she ain't attracted to you as boyfriend material at the moment. Girls don't go around telling guys they're cute, they don't make their intentions obvious like we do.

2. she canceled twice on you in the last month? this proves my number 1, she sees you as a cute guy but not boyfriend material. Not only that but you lost some of your dignity there. Never let a woman leave you hanging. 1 cancelation is enough but 2? who are you the man or the b1tch? (she is making you look like a b1tch)
 

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Originally posted by HalfAddict
So basically there's no winning this one?
But why would you want to win this one? you should move on, she is making you look like a fool. Don't tell me you think she respects you and is attracted to you, when she cancels on you not once but twice in one month?

Not only that but you shouldn't hang out with her that much anymore. Getting canceled on twice in one month, that is disrespect. She can act as nice as she wants with you, but in her mind you are now a level below her in status and she got a big ego boost I bet.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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maybe she's one of those attention *****s that says to her other girlfriends... "yeah i have another admirer, he's been trying to call me and setup dates but i shoot him down!".... *****es.
 

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Originally posted by t00dumb
maybe she's one of those attention *****s that says to her other girlfriends... "yeah i have another admirer, he's been trying to call me and setup dates but i shoot him down!".... *****es.
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