mixed signals?

[mrben117]

hi im new to the forums,

there is this girl that im kind of interested in. she is in one of my classes (highschool). we have a lot of eye contacts going on and actually, catching her looking at me was the reason i noticed her in the first place. i started talking to her afterclass and i thought that all of our conversations went well, i dont really have any troubles talking to girls. last wednesday, i decided to tell her that "she should come along with me to lunch sometime", (we are allowed to go off campus for lunch), she didnt say no, nor did she say yes, she told me that she usually goes out with her friends usually, and somehow, the convo ended at me saying, "well, let me know". thursday (yesterday) i didnt even see her at the spot that we usually talk, (avoiding me?). today (friday) i asked her again "so, when are u going out to lunch with me?" and she gave me the excuse which i thought was bs "i have to study for our test today" (which we did have, but still...). pissed me off.

my question is, do i go after this chick or move on?

thank you

 

[gymshorts]

i think that instead of asking her to go out to lunch with you, just tell her that she is. Be the man and lead the way. Dont leave the decisions to her. Youre putting her on a pedestal and chasing after her.

 

[mrben117]

that is one thing i dont want to happen, is to make it seem that i am chasing after her. its just at one point in time, i was 100% for sure that she had a thing for me, the way she was looking, staring at me in class. so i went for it, and now, i feel like im being rejected, so wtf..

 

[JayUK]

Hey man youve jus gta go for it, jus get more ****y i guess, like be more playful, maybe sumthin like 'u kno u wna go to lunch wit me' or somethin like that?!

Or ask her out, like 'hey if lunch aint your thing, then why dont we go to the mall saturday?!' or after school?!

Good luck man, let me know how it goes

 

[mrben117]

yea i think i'll do that, but do i ask her that the next time i see her again? wouldnt that just seem too obsessive and kind of annoying? maybe i should jsut lay of that subject for now and talk to her more, maybe im thinkin too much.

 

[Lompa]

Your offer sounded desprate(sp?):
Insted of :"want to come to eat with me?"
Use:"I am going to the benches, why woun't you accompany me?"