Mixed signals - quick answer

[Bassmasterzac]

- I met this girl thru a friend
- Got some ioi's and we talked on the ride back to her house
- Saw her again at a party few dyas later she was excited to see ml
-Escalated kino, but no big moves
- My friend was driving her home (again)
- I had my arm around her and i told her to put her number in
- She whispered "you need to find me on facebook - thats the important thing"
- at that point i just said "ok"
- when i got out to let her out she hugged me goodbye, it wasnt that awkward
friendly side hug

Anywho, did i miss something? Should i have made a move? Is she sending me mixed signals? What should i do next time i see her?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

- I had my arm around her and i told her to put her number in
- She whispered "you need to find me on facebook - thats the important thing"
- at that point i just said "ok"


This was the point at which it started to go a bit t!ts up...

1) When you have you arm round her, that is your cue to take her in a manly embrace and kiss her like she's never been kissed before, like you wont see each other for the next 6months.

2) TMK's first rule (only rule) of the number close - they take your number, you don't take theirs. Their texting you after the initial contact is a hard indication of their interest; it also subconsciously indicates to them that you're not particularly bothered if you meet them again of not - which conveys your abundance mentality.

3) TMK's first (only) rule of finding her on facebook, you guessed it: finding her on facebook is not important, at all. By giving her access to that information, you are reducing your own level of mystery. In fact it is more important for your relationship with her that you DO NOT find her on FB. She'll thank you in the long run. And you in turn will thank me.

4) When you just said 'OK' that was the point at which you should have gone back to point 1 (above).

Notice everything that occurs 'naturally' to you: taking her number, being gentlemanly/chivalrous/doing what she says, all this is counter-intuitive. What this chick was screaming (covertly) for was for you to make a move.

You've got to be her MAN, not her sexless eunuch minder.

I'll be here all week.

 

[Bassmasterzac]

You got good advice man, but you suggest kissing her in front of people? Doing that is no task to me, but I thought you supposed to be alone with that stuff. And situationally i didnt get to spend muh time with her. I should have kissed her outside the car. I ended up adding her on fb, theres nothing on my profile, really. I messaged her the conversation was... Eh, okay. Im done contacting her. If i see her again which i know i will, ill make the move next time.

 

[apprenticedj]

I apologize if I'm thread jacking but Monkey I have a question about your #2 above. You always give your number not take theirs? That seems to be the opposite of what most DJ theorists would recommend but it sounds good. By giving them your number and waiting for them to reach out it may be a good indicator of their interest but it also might leave you in a position of weakness, no longer in the driver seat.

What is your theory behind this? Just curious.

 

[VladPatton]

Going Slow Is Not A Bad Thing

Ok, you're playing it cool, good. About the Facebook thing...don't do it. Say you don't do Facebook, and that's that. Why the fück would THAT be the important thing??? That's just retarded girl logic.

You got the digits, so all you need to do is set up a date. It's really simple, and there is no other way for you to know if she's into you or not. Attempt to set something up, don't random text her silly shıt, and see what happens. If she flakes twice, adios.

 

[handle]

Doesn't sound like there are any mixed signals here at all. Stay the course.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

@bassmasterzac

Meh. You don't have to be 'alone' as such. May be some chicks want a bit of privacy, but I don't really let it concern me one way or another. As I say, she wants a man, regardless of who else is looking on. Also don't just 'make the move' next time. You obviously need further indications of interest. I advocate being a man, not a sleaze. You're going to have to build back up to that moment again, the one that you have already passed over, which probably is working against you at the moment.

@apprenticedj

I am not a DJ nor a theorist. I am a man working mostly in logic and I read a lot of logical argument here and in other places of the manosphere.

A girl gives you a number. Unless you drop call her then and there (which is a bit desperate-looking), how do you know it's hers? Give her your number and her contacting you, or not, is a truer indication of her interest; truer indeed than her giving you a number that might not even be hers. It's just a simple matter of hard logic and allows you not to get too invested. Her texting you first means she is already actively taking the time to get in touch rather than simply passively reacting to your text. My own time-saving strategy; people agree, people don't agree. It's what I work with.

Ya get me?

@VladPatton

'That's just retarded girl logic.'

It's not retarded in the slightest. It's incredibly clever, because someone can check you out and draw their own conclusions about you before you've even started.