Mixed Signals Led To Crash & Burn

[Sayajin_Prince]

Yup this a story of a rejection that happened to me in the Hs where i'm taking a computer course. there's this girl that seemed very interested in me at least that's what i thought. i mean she was always looking at me with a i want you type of look you know, that look that goes right trough you and makes you feel confident and think this girl is into me. i followed my gut not knowing what was going to happen and after much delay today i decided i would make a convo with her and get to know each other better, this is what happened:

Me: ( she was with her friends ) Hi, could you come here please? i wanna ask you something.

She: Hi, what do you want?

Me: I've noticed you around. What's your name?

She: Rita

Me: Where are you from Rita?

She: I'm from Porto. Is that all?

Me: i became silent and thinking about how stupid that comeback was. While i was looking at her she turned her back on me and walked to her friends ignoring me. I left and said it was nice to meet you also Rita, stay well, but got no reply.

I wonder what the hell happened, i know it wasn't my fault cuz i only did what my gut was telling me to do, you have nothing to lose go forward and i did, i just wasn't prepared for her *****y and cold attitude you know. Hell, i'm not allucinating here, i'm sure of what i saw and felt, she gave me mixed signals, signals of interest and then she becomes a ***** and rejects. i wonder why girls do this

is there a 100% sure way to know if she is faking her interest and just playing/teasing or that she is really interested? if so, please give me some feedback cuz this is not the first time this happens and i always fall for it.

This is by far the most uncommon rejection i've ever had, cuz this girl was just plain stupid and shallow, but i'm glad because it didn't affected me that much, i remember crying when some girl i liked a lot gave me a rejection, but as time passes by, the pain is no more there's is just some sadness.

Do you guys think i should stop for a while with thinking about girls and be on the hunt?

Thanks

 

[Caveman]

Originally posted by Sayajin_Prince
is there a 100% sure way to know if she is faking her interest and just playing/teasing or that she is really interested?

Nope. This could be either way. Some girls are out to get your attention to see if they are able to attract you and then there are those girls that are into you but once you approach they get so nerous - which might be the case here cuz you made her come up to you with her friends watching.. Some girls will at that point do anything to hide the fact that they're interested.

By the way.. Your commanding her to come to you seems kinda off here. I can't exactly describe why.. it just feels wrong somehow. If anyone feels the same and knows how to put it into words, please do.

 

[Supero Masculus]

I see where you are coming from, it does feel off. I think that it may be that you removed her from her probably "exciting" convo with her freinds and wasn't really wanting to leave it. It would have been better to wait until she was done talking with her friends but it would've been smoother if you could've joined the convo and talked with all of em. Just ignore her a little, flirt with the other chicks and that would do 2 important things, 1) gain approval of her friends (hugely important) and 2) make her think, "why isn't he flirting with me!?" that would've done the trick here.

Props for talking to her so boldly though, that makes you seem like a hero compared to alot of the guys on this forum.

 

[blienk]

From now on when you approach a chick you should have some topics in mind beyond just "What's your name?". Yes, the chick was a little flakey, but you can't blame her too much, considering that you even admit you had nothing to talk about.

 

[kevbo]

just keep on keepin on. forget about this girl. there are always oddballs out there, and there's really nothing you can do but move on. as for painful rejections, as long as you keep trying, they'll hurt less if you just think positively. just think about the fact that you at least tried, and that alone can make you stronger.

 

[Thraxeh]

hmm, i think that u made it sound to prepeared, i'm not shure

 

[JSH]

No, there is no way otherwise we would all be happy men, thats why i preach awareness. You need to be observant and watch the situation and her. There are nearly always subtle hints and yhou just have to pick up on it.

However, it does not really matter if you get the wrong signals becasue what happened when you guessed them wrong. You showed you had guts and are not frightened of yourself. Well done.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

Originally posted by Sayajin_Prince
is there a 100% sure way to know if she is faking her interest and just playing/teasing or that she is really interested?

i havent really been rejected that way.. YET. but its bound to happen sooner or later.

the answer is.. YES. what is it then, you ask. you just did it and answered your own question.

 

[NRM]

Originally posted by Sayajin_Prince
is there a 100% sure way to know if she is faking her interest and just playing/teasing or that she is really interested? if so, please give me some feedback cuz this is not the first time this happens and i always fall for it.

What you should do is forget what you don't know for sure. Before you even consider her interest in you, think about your interest in her. Are you interested in her? If so, ask for the number, call her on a date. If she refuses either, she's not interested and it's that simple. After all that there's the body language on the date, the kiss close, whatever whatever. But if you are interested in a person, get the number. If a girl is interested in you and you aren't interested in her, you wouldn't even care. Decide your interest first, make a move, and figure out the rest later.