"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hey fellas, I got a bit of a pickle going on. To tell this long story in a few sentences would be impossible, but fortunatly I am lazy so I can put my skills to good use. See I have known this girl for a while, she really flirts with me and I am sure she really likes me. She has a boyfriend. Apparently she likes me but she goes way back with this dude and it seems she just doesn't want to break this guy's heart by leaving him but I think the moment is nigh. Anyway, on to the mixed signals. So pretty much the other day she IM's me (out of the blue) and flat out asks me to dinner when she comes into town (away at college, far, but not out of state.) But after that she doesn't IM me anymore, then I IMed her once and she was busy so I don't really know what to think of this and I was hoping for some advice. Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wouldn't think too much of it if I were you.

She asked you out to dinner? Hey, only if she pays... after all, she asked you.

All in all, you shouldn't get your hopes up. Because mixed signals generally end up being a low sign of interest.

There are benefits to reading the DJ Bible -- you should read it it sometime.
 
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yeah dude, don't think too much about this one. i learned a long, long time ago to NEVER EVER try and analyze anything a woman says or does. she asked you out to dinner. that's fine. wait for HER to contact YOU with the details. if she doesn't......oh well!!! it would be her loss and you should just move on and forget about her!
 
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mix signals sucks man. i'm about to blow!! we like to think its high interest but there are always a lot of factors that leads to mix signals. i would say yea she likes you but maybe she's trying to keep her distance in being close because she already has a boyfriend and don't want you to influence on her judgement. but overall i think she wants you but don't want to step over that line because she know she can't go back after that. good luck bro!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i would probably in your position just really try to not think about it so much. women are crazy sometimes they're receptive today and the next day or so they're like cold turkey and just don't want to be bothered. if you still want this girl, i'd just take it slow and she probably have you on her check list if anything goes wrong with her current boyfriend. just play it cool and try try real hard to not overanalyze the situation. it sucks but hey, its how bad you want it i guess.
 
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Originally posted by TheCarGuyA4
See I have known this girl for a while, she really flirts with me and I am sure she really likes me. She has a boyfriend.
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Does she like you? Not more than her BF dude!

Originally posted by TheCarGuyA4
The other day she IM's me (out of the blue) and flat out asks me to dinner when she comes into town, But after that she doesn't IM me anymore, then I IMed her once and she was busy so I don't really know what to think of this and I was hoping for some advice.
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Mixed Signals = Low intrerest level or game playing.

She´s playing "push/pull" with you. Tell me, If Tom Cruise was calling her do you think she´d be busy?

Oh yeah I remembered, she has a BF! Maybe she was busy with him.

Can you see past the smoke now?
 
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Man I haven't seen it like that... yeah man I am cutting bait. Thanks for the advice, I knew it would be good to join this board.
 
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Originally posted by TheCarGuyA4
Man I haven't seen it like that... yeah man I am cutting bait. Thanks for the advice, I knew it would be good to join this board.
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Being a DJ is not just being able to seduce women, but also cutting women´s mind games!
 
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cutting into their mind games? sorry i don't understand what that means, someone please clarify.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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