Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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toasttopper1879

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Ok.There seems to be several different oppinions to what mixed signals actually mean and how they should be interpreted.Some say it means low interest,others say its a test and so on.
Can anyone clarify this for me.
Secondly why is it the norm for a girl to cancel a pre arranged date at the last minute,or maybe change the plans.Is this a test or does it just mean shes just not interested.
Cheers everyone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Women only cancel (ie. flake) when there is low interest. It isn't the norm and often things just come up otherwise.
 
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"Women only cancel (ie. flake) when there is low interest. It isn't the norm and often things just come up otherwise."

But what if she is the one who initiates the date and then cancels at the last minute? After the first date I had with this girl, she asked me out a 2nd time and the night of our date she said something came up and suggested we go out 2 nights later because that's when she got paid. When I called her that night she said she had been so busy she forgot all about her date with me but still wanted to go out, so we did. And whenever I tried to pay for everything she always insisted on paying half. We always have a lot of fun together but I still can't tell whether she is truly interested or just wants to hang out.

Also, is it a good idea to always arrange a date a few days in advance or is it okay to call her up and ask her to do something the same day?
 
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Welcome to the friends zone...

"she said something came up"
"said she had been so busy she forgot all about her date with me"
"she always insisted on paying half"
"We always have a lot of <non sexual> fun together"
"she asked me out"
"she suggested we go out 2 nights later"

Look who's in control here!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by skinnydart
Welcome to the friends zone...

"she said something came up"
"said she had been so busy she forgot all about her date with me"
"she always insisted on paying half"
"We always have a lot of <non sexual> fun together"
"she asked me out"
"she suggested we go out 2 nights later"

Look who's in control here!
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Well, if that's true then what should I do from here? I'm really into her, and according to a mutual friend she's been interested in me for a long time. I went out with her 2 nights ago-should I call her or wait for her to call me? If I ask her out, how should I go about things to get out of the friends zone, if that's possible? She usually ends up calling me if I don't call her within a few days.
 
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simple

u keep dialing up the attraction and connection she has with you without ever showing her in anyway that u actually like her or love her. (subtle)

If u let her know u like her or love her then the game is over.
The game is over when she says she loves you or likes u FIRST.
U must let her say she likes u first.

Your aim in the game is not tell her how u feel about her and get her incredibly attracted and connected to u so she tells u first.
Who is the prize and who always must have the upper hand in any interaction with a woman? The answer is U

Ben
 
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no i mean

the game is over when she loves you first.

if she says she likes u, just say i like u too.
ur accepting her that she likes u which makes her feel good. Make sure u read her when she says that or else she might be testing u.

Now that she has said 'i like u' first
now just let her say 'i love u' first.

get it.

Ben
 
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once she has told her u 'i love u'
then u can say 'i love u too' or 'ive been waiting for u to say that' or whateva.

Ben
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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this is a simple problem, do a search flakeyness means low intrest most of the time, your gonna have to find a different way in and that mostly revolves around Ignoreing her, or "ganji" games

let her miss you, show her what its like without you, if it works and she gets upset or whatever then obviously there is some unspoken feelings there.

if she goes, oh i haven't noticed
I thought you were busy

or just generally didn't care you were gone for a while, then its obvious where you stand.
 
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