"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SmellyFish

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hello Djers

this is my first post

this site is amazing
i've learned a lot and applied it in the field

ok, to the point:

im about a HB7
there's this HB9 that i've known for a long time
a few days ago, she starts talking to me more often
in one class, i usually sit alone but recently she started to sit next to me
i make her laugh all the time and even applied some kino
im a lil confused because she has a boyfriend
this stops me from flirting because i if i had a girlfriend, i wouldnt want anybody to hit on her
also, i dont think we qualifiy as 'friends'

what the hell is she trying to say?
what should i do?

ask questions if i was unclear

thx
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SmellyFish said:
hello Djers

this is my first post

this site is amazing
i've learned a lot and applied it in the field

ok, to the point:

im about a HB7

You mean to say you're an HB (Hot Babe)? hehe.. Next time just say "I'm about a 7 in the looks dept."

there's this HB9 that i've known for a long time

Long time... and no action? Hmm, careful about the friend zone, okay?

a few days ago, she starts talking to me more often
in one class, i usually sit alone but recently she started to sit next to me
i make her laugh all the time and even applied some kino

Good move on the kino part... Just don't over-do the jokes part or she'll think you're just a clown.

im a lil confused because she has a boyfriend
this stops me from flirting because i if i had a girlfriend, i wouldnt want anybody to hit on her

I've got a g/f and yeah, I wouldn't want anyone hitting on her either.

also, i dont think we qualifiy as 'friends'

Hehe, what do you qualify as then? Since she has a boyfriend, it looks to me bro that she's just seeking some extra attention on the sidelines. I'm guessing her boyfriend isn't giving her the attention she wants, so she's fishing for it from you. I wouldn't do anything with her until she gave me some more IOI's besides just sitting next to me in class and talking. Ask her out for coffee or something and see if she's really interested in you.

what the hell is she trying to say?
what should i do?

ask questions if i was unclear

thx
Good luck bro! Don't be shy! You can do it!
 

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NeonBase said:
You mean to say you're an HB (Hot Babe)? hehe.. Next time just say "I'm about a 7 in the looks dept."
like i said, i am new :wave:
well... i am a hot babe in the ladies perspective :cool:

so if i have coffee with her, it wouldnt be a 'date' right?

also:
one of my best mates really digs this girl also
would it be wrong to just move in on her?

my friend is in the friendship zone with her so he has little to no chance
 

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She has a boyfriend.

This means in order for her to really move into something with you, then you need to take the initiative.

It already seems like she likes you. Don't waste your time with worrying about her boyfriend or whatever. If it was your friend, then thats one thing. But you're going to find that life is a game of competition. If you can snag this girl cause she digs you more than her boyfriend, then do it. Worst thing that can happen is that she says no (and most likely she will at first). But if you are persistent with your seductions, then chances are she will let her guard down.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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