Mixed messages, not sure...

[XRCBWilliams15]

Been seeing this chick for a few weeks. She calls/texts often - many times a day. I don't always answer, and she always makes the last move, and then follows up the next day.

But whenever I make plans with her, she claims she might be doing something with her friends. Like oh i might be going out, or might be doing drinks with so and so, I will get back to you.

I make plans in advance, and am busy as fvck. I don't like it one bit. She has WAY more free time than me - I think she just is doing it so she doesn't seem needy, but it's really just annoying as hell. My time is valuable, and I make plans in advance. I am busy every day this week until the weekend. so I tried to make plans with her for saturday, and she's like i might be going out for drinks with [insert chick-friends name], and then 2 days before, I'll ask what the deal is, and she ends up being available or will immediately suggest another time or day.

is this a test? i think she thinks she's playing a game, and i like her, but this part is about to make me walk.

I just don't like that it sounds like she is leaving her options open. I'm not the option, she is. I could do 5 different things and other chicks saturday night. When chicks prioritize me, I like that, when they don't they usually get their walking papers. Only reason I haven't walked already is that IL seems high otherwise - and obviously she's hot and I like hanging out with her. I distinctly get the impression she doesn't have a lot of friends, and my social life is very active. I have tons of friends, and things to do all day everyday and she is very aware.

(and no one say that if Channing Tatum asked her out Saturday, she'd be available - I get it.)

 

[No.Danny]

After all this you're still trying to get at her? Next her. Judge actions not words

 

[jurry]

If channing tatum asked her to hang out saturday shed say yes.

He is judging her by her actions, her words are just a bunch of BS.

Why dont you say something about it? Seems like pretty simple convo, if she changes cool if not fuk it move on. Maybe she is looking for that validation of interest on your part and is intimidated by how busy you are.. So you bringing it up might make her more comfortable and not have to feel like she needs to be unavailable.

 

[XRCBWilliams15]

yep. i agree Jurry, her actions say she's interested. Whenever I go out with her, she's all over me. I would agree that she is intimidated. I guess the only reason I haven't brought it up is because I thought to myself that it sounds needy. She is almost always available to me, but she's universally annoying about confirming plans in advance.

I go to places that require reservations in advance - they're usually hot spots in town. I don't like breaking reservations. (not that I have had to, but it's just an annoying feeling.) We're adults. It's not that hard to commit to plans a fvcking week in advance. And no one say take her to a dive bar type spot - it's not my style and never will be at this point in my life.

I just don't understand why she just doesn't say she's busy. she should make up her mind one way or the other so I can make other plans. It's inconsiderate, dating and DJ **** aside.

 

[hudpes]

Don't propose a date then, let her ask for it. If she doesn't in a week, stop replying to texts, calls.

 

[old_skoolr]

Here's a tip next time you want to see her send/say this:

"Hey next Friday I wanna (insert your date plan), you down? Or you gonna do that cute thing you do when you stay undecided till the last minute?"

I understand you dont wanna be seem needy, you wanna come as playful, but you still want to make a point that your aware of her games, without really annoying you.