Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Mistake: When you don't remember a girl, she hates you for it.

Poonani Maker

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I've done this at least 3 times within the past year. I knew her face, I knew her name, I knew how attracted we WERE to each other 3, 2, even one year ago, and then I see/run into her again, and say nothing, as if, I don't even recognize her, and I can tell she's thinking, "Don't you even recognize me???" but SHE doesn't GIVE, so I don't give, and admit that I know her and ask, "Hey, how are you? How have you been (her name)?"

I've noticed that She will, more often than not, BURN your name and face and existence to a simmering crisp in her mind IF you act like you don't know her.

This really fvckin pisses them off!

One, Just yesterday, [she even got married last month!!], saw me, (after I had been ignoring her for almost 3 years every time I saw her) and I could tell, with the smile she GAVE to me, that she EVEN THOUGH JUST MARRIED wanted me Badly. So there's an exception to every woman. MOST, I tell you, will Hate you for it Outwardly.

The thing is, SHE doesn't acknowledge me, so WHY should I acknowledge HER first? Why does the onus always HAVE to be on ME to Be Happy to see her again???

Women are FOREVER playing this fvckin power game, when I am doing all the backbreaking fvckin work, when I am the MAN, when I am the Prize, not her. Never lose your frame for modern woman, and they will Hate you for it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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some people feel awkward or too shy to say 'hi' if they havent seen you in a while.

i dont think its a power game at all, if you recognize someone go in for the "hi" straight away, guy or girl, im sure most will appreciate it.
 

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Message from captain obvious:

when you ignore anyone you've known for a while before, they will resent you a little for ignoring them rather than acknowledging them.
 

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Wait till you sleep w/one on a ONS and you forget it. Then yrs from that, you see them again and remind you. But you forgot it. Really pisses them off. I know personally
 

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Makes sense, why should you acknowledge her if she doesn't acknowledge you back. Seems fair.

However, here's another perspective:

As part of my inner game/frame, I don't care if girls acknowledge me or not, if I know your face and your name and we've talked previously - I'm gonna say hi no matter what vibe/look they give me.

It keeps me in that (outwardly) non-reactive mode, where I control the dynamics of whatever that's within my vicinity.

Sometimes a girl that doesn't necessarily know me well ,but i see regularly would get a warm greeting from me, and at that point, they have this look of confusion and surprise which resembles a deer-headlights look.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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