"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Missing Opportunities, maybe overanalyzing

bob2007

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I feel kinda crappy missing a couple opportunities. I don't know if my co worker was just pontificating the other day (hes married), but he seemed to sense my girl problems (only known him a month).

He thinks I overanalyze. But he was also quick to just randomly point out girls and tell me to game. I work in an investment bank (trade assistant, entry level position). Lots of people 500 + working the trading floor. Is this a good place? Technically I don't work direclty with many people.

Opportunity 2

Went to a bar with co workers, none of which I new in a diff city. I'm chinese usher, great at singing, I sing karaoke, somewhat drunk after 8 rounds of tequila. I saw a pretty girl by herself, looked kinda bored as her friend went off somewhere. I was hesitant, since I was with co workers, but I doubt that they would've cared. I didn't make a move.

Opportunity 3

Played soccer in nyc, pick up games, saw a hot girl, that was really good at the game, she seemed friendly. I'm sure she noticed how well I played. Got kicked off the field by new people with permits. Didn't make a move decided to follow buncha guys to another field.

I don't know why I couldn't seem to pull the trigger. I work and live in a crappy town outside nyc and yet I still dont' make a move. Maybe I need some goals, like 10 approaches a week or something.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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danielzxc

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If you've been a member here since 2001 and you're still trying to figure out if you overanalyze or not, I would say, yes, you do!


(Which invesment bank would have a trading floor outside nyc? Is it some boutique firm?)
 

bob2007

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danielzxc said:
If you've been a member here since 2001 and you're still trying to figure out if you overanalyze or not, I would say, yes, you do!


(Which invesment bank would have a trading floor outside nyc? Is it some boutique firm?)
Ya I think you've hit it right on bro.

It's the largest trading floor in the world. Does trading business under diff names. They're just cheap and want tax breaks. I bet they're missing out on top talent with headquarters outside nyc. UBS, great company, ****ty town.
 
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