"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Missing a girl after applying no contact

JPlaya

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No contacted her almost a week ago. Deleted her #, which keeps me from initiating anything. I would usually be fine, but summer break happened a few days during NC and im stuck at my house. My hometown and college are like night and day pretty much. When does the chick usually text back?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Who Dares Win

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You apply no contact to avoid wasting time,resourches and self-respect on a unreciprocating girl not for raise her interest level.

It could happen that no contact gets you the chick back but its not like a collateral effect than the main one.

Anyway to answer your question, the chicks rarely initiate but when she does its mostly because she has no other options around, an in any case for sure more than a week, in my case it also needed months or in a case even a year.

It actually depends the condition of your no contact, if she is a girl that pissed you off and cutted her out while still in the dating phase, she could come back but if you go NC on a girl because she rejected or LJBFed you she aint gonna come back,she most likely dont even remember about you.

Things could be different of course if you are both on facebook and she happens to see you upolading your six-pack pictures with plenty of other chicks liking it, that would raise her interest for sure.
 

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Well this girl used to like me a lot, but I kind of screwed it up and ger interest level in me isnt as high. Weve been on 3 dates and shes given me opportunities to **** her but I was scared because we were both virgins. After that I was kind of a douche to her and she made me mad, so I deleted her #. I know I screwed up, I get enough **** for that and depressed about it too.
 

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I'm in a similar situation you are in and I've applied NC several times and it's helped each time.

First time I applied NC I told her I was done with her and was removing her from my life. She kept asking "can't we be civil with each other blah blah" but I just kept telling her I'm not dealing with the crap and to have a nice life. She ended up caving 5 days later and came back to me saying she wanted to be with me but ended up playing games so I initiated NC again.

Second time I went NC it was about 2.5 - 3 weeks before we talked again. I actually initiated because she's not the type to make the initial contact (plus my situation is unique she has a boyfriend) but she almost immediately she missed me a lot and actually cried about me not being around.

She's still acting immature so I'm preparing to initiate NC for the third time and if it doesn't achieve what I want then I'll make the NC permanent.
 

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I see what you mean when you initiated. This girl cancelled on me, so I deleted her # and didnt talk to her for about 6 months. Said hey and she acted like I had died and came back to life.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MrNiceGuy23

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Yeah it all depends on your relationship with the woman. It also depends on whether or not you want this woman. Is she someone you still want to get with?
 
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