Ok so this is what happened. I met this girl yesterday and spent a couple of hours chillen with her ( going to starbucks, going to stores, tatoo place, etc.). I felt i was having good rapport with her and used a little kino too. Anyway, i find myself with her alone watching tv. I know i wanted to do something better so i ask if i could put my head on he shoulders cuz i was tired and she said yes. I did this to see if it could lead to making out or more, but i didn't know what to do next to make it happen. Can someone tell me what i could of done so the next time im in the same situation i kno what to do.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Missed Opportunity?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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start rubbing her lower back, her legs, her area above her croth and below her belly button. hands through the hair.
/edit. oops i thought you already were making out with her... (paragraphs are made for a reason... or the Enter button)
anyways
if you were girly enough to put your hands on HER shoulder, just rest your hands on her lap (palm down) and then jsut start tapping your finger or something... and listen to her breathing.
if she starts breathing heavy shes wanting more... if not.. she might be weirded out the fact that you're girly enough to have your head on her shoulder.
you should have gotten a pillow and had your head in her lap instead.
but this is totally retarded... this situation wont happen unless
You: I'm tired can i lay my head on your shoulder
Her: Sure
You thinking: I want to make out.
Her thinking: This is weird.
Later you log on sosuave.net
mvin10: Can someone tell me what i could of done so the next time im in the same situation i kno what to do.
Michele, l'Arcangelo: blah blah
Later hanging out with same girl
You: I'm tired can i lay my head on your shoulder again.
Her: ummm okaaaayyy...?
Then you'll be STARING at your cold nervous hands shake as you try and rub her legs and tap on her legs.
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what i'm saying is:
just because you read how to do something doesn't mean you're going to be 100% comfortable doing it if you couldn't do it the first time.
learn and live.
/edit. oops i thought you already were making out with her... (paragraphs are made for a reason... or the Enter button)
anyways
if you were girly enough to put your hands on HER shoulder, just rest your hands on her lap (palm down) and then jsut start tapping your finger or something... and listen to her breathing.
if she starts breathing heavy shes wanting more... if not.. she might be weirded out the fact that you're girly enough to have your head on her shoulder.
you should have gotten a pillow and had your head in her lap instead.
but this is totally retarded... this situation wont happen unless
You: I'm tired can i lay my head on your shoulder
Her: Sure
You thinking: I want to make out.
Her thinking: This is weird.
Later you log on sosuave.net
mvin10: Can someone tell me what i could of done so the next time im in the same situation i kno what to do.
Michele, l'Arcangelo: blah blah
Later hanging out with same girl
You: I'm tired can i lay my head on your shoulder again.
Her: ummm okaaaayyy...?
Then you'll be STARING at your cold nervous hands shake as you try and rub her legs and tap on her legs.
---
what i'm saying is:
just because you read how to do something doesn't mean you're going to be 100% comfortable doing it if you couldn't do it the first time.
learn and live.
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Michele l'Arcangelo
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editted^^
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
Rule number one- dont ask if you can do Kino,Just do it, and when you do do it, dont worry about it.
unless she runs off, screams or slaps you of course.
unless she runs off, screams or slaps you of course.
SenorSuave
Don Juan
If you were looking to get somewhere, you wouldn't have asked for permission; women like to be lead, not followed. Then you could smell her hair and complement her on how good it smells. Lightly breath on her skin, and then initiate more kino by lightly rubbing your fingers along her skin. From their you can slowly advance towards the basement haha.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
Right. Next time your watching tv with a girl and your tired, don't lean on her. It reverses your genders, she's supposed to lean on you.
What I do when I want to change from sitting next to eachother to lying across eachother is this:
Me: Hey stand up a sec.
Her: *slightly confused* Alrite
(she stands up)
(I stretch out along the sofa leaving no space for her)
Me: Yoink
Her: Hey! *sad puppy dog face*
Me: Don't worry, your not that large
(I grab her and pull her down into me)
(I either then kiss her if she lands with her face right up to mine or she makes herself comfortable and we continue watching tv)
What I do when I want to change from sitting next to eachother to lying across eachother is this:
Me: Hey stand up a sec.
Her: *slightly confused* Alrite
(she stands up)
(I stretch out along the sofa leaving no space for her)
Me: Yoink
Her: Hey! *sad puppy dog face*
Me: Don't worry, your not that large
(I grab her and pull her down into me)
(I either then kiss her if she lands with her face right up to mine or she makes herself comfortable and we continue watching tv)