missed opportunity earlier ...

[decadentdestruction]

lil recap of what happened , and a lil history behind this ...
a few months this new girl joined school...

I have always kept my distance from her , I make eye contact , she pursues back with deep eye contact too. we see each other on the days that I have class , meaning that we go to school 2 days , but have different classes .

this girl had class right next to me , and still I did nothing , I had a friend in that class with her , and asked him if hey have u checked out that girl , and he automatically gave a don't pursue **** block move . I never told him I was interested in her , I saw him , and said man you have some cuties in the class , especially her * he was like yeah man , she is hard to get , I have seen many pathetic attempts , and word on the block says she is taken . once I was walking thru the halls and heard her talk on her phone talking about , the break up with her ex. and how she was looking forward to go to school. then that same day I heard that I was in the break / lounge room and she went in by herself , I wanted to make my move but this other girl came and started to talk to her , while she was chillin with her , 2 guys came up and introduced themselves and tried building rapport on them , the chick automatically shut them down , with a yeah nice to meet you and busted the I am going to ignore you leave me alone move one guy tried number closing after 2 minutes of saying hi she said sry I am taken .
anyhow fastforward to now ...

I had forgotten about her during a 3 week break we had . but now I see this girl 2 times a week , and whenever I see her she sends me the signals , but I plain just ignore . Idk wtf is wrong with me ...

so now to my missed opportunity , I left school to go get a bite to eat at subway . by my school. I ordered to go but decided to stay , then half way thru my sub , she showed up looked at me and smiled, and I smiled back , but didn't crap, after she ordered she sat in the booth right on front of mine , I was pretty much looking at her back the whole time, I decided to eat my sub slower , and was trying to build up some balls to talk to her , when I was ready , she got up threw her trash , and gave me eye contact again before she left , and took off. I then got up , and walked out subway pretty much saying to myself ... dude WTF!!!!!!!!!!


some how I can score numbers at party's / bars/ malls .

but with a girl I have a crush this happens....?

what am I doing wrong ...

I don't desire the other girls I get numbers from ...

I try to do the same with my crush , but I lose my mind ,and retreat , then when I am ready its too late ?

 

[slaog]

once I was walking thru the halls and heard her talk on her phone talking about , the break up with her ex. and how she was looking forward to go to school.

You sure you're not stalking her? :crackup:

but with a girl I have a crush this happens....?

what am I doing wrong ...

I don't desire the other girls I get numbers from ...

I try to do the same with my crush , but I lose my mind ,and retreat , then when I am ready its too late ?

You've put her on a pedestal and you're afraid of rejection because she means too much to you. The other girls you approach mean nothing.

You've been building this girl up in your head for months into something she's not.

You need to change your mindset. You're the prize and she's just a girl who would be lucky to have you. If the flirting with you was genuine then why not take a chance? Say something c + f like "did you murder any subways today?"..

 

[procanto]

dont b scared....walk up 2 her confidently, and use ur charm...and b SINCERE!!!!!! dont look at her chest, butt...and if it helps, look into her eyes or at her lips.....all my ex boyfriends did that with me and it worked.
Good Luck

 

[IceBreaker]

i think you don't want to talk to her is becuase, you don't know how to esculate with her, once you've gotten the number, and you've seen her so much times, you can't "pick up" in your avarage way.

So you're going to have to change your tactics.

Start by saying: hi my name's decadentdestruction (with a smile after the sentance)

she'll say: my name is _____

you say: listen, i'm in a hurry, and i want to get to know you. We should grab a coffee somewhere, what do you say.

The she'll have to reply with a yes or no.

if it's a no, you never had a chance, but most likely it's a yes. If it's a yes, then send her a text and plan your date. Forget about her boyfriend or ex. You've got to make your move before you look like a stalker.

 

[decadentdestruction]

You sure you're not stalking her? :crackup:



You've put her on a pedestal and you're afraid of rejection because she means too much to you. The other girls you approach mean nothing.

You've been building this girl up in your head for months into something she's not.

You need to change your mindset. You're the prize and she's just a girl who would be lucky to have you. If the flirting with you was genuine then why not take a chance? Say something c + f like "did you murder any subways today?"..

lol me stalking her no ... that day of the phone convo she was having , I just happen to be there at the same time as her , I was walking to class , and she was there I had to wait to get inside the classroom because the teachers lock the door , and we have these chairs in the hall were you can chill . she was being kinda loud , and everything echoes thru those halls lol...

thanks for the advice everyone ,

I really do need to change my mindset ...

I guess I am just afraid of rejection with this one ,
did u murder any subways today ?

good one

its crazy , when I am at the party or bar , I consider myself the prize , adn I walk out with numbers, and get one night stands or small flings , but with the one I want its ... hell

you know what I am going to talk her , too bad I don't see her until next week , but I am going to do it Fcku it ...

I am going to update this post , as soon as I am done talking with her