First of all, here are some things about myself for background:
20 years old
Virgin (farthest I've gone is making out and handjob, could have gone all the way but she was kinda gross)
5'8, 145 lbs.
I'm currently in California for a few more weeks on vacation, but have failed to meet any girls because of my inability to act. I'm with my parents as well, and my failure to flirt and such only increases when they are around for some reason. I am sick of not having the balls to act, and the feeling I get after thinking "this is the hottest girl I've ever seen" and then failing to act is horrible beyond words. So much regret each time it happens. The problem is, I'm not quick enough on my toes to think of something to say. I need to learn to be ready at ALL times to have a conversation and to flirt with girls. Below is a recent example of a missed opportunity.
Example:
Tonight I was out to watch fireworks with my parents on a bridge, and this hot girl (younger than me, probably 16-17) with a couple other girls walked by some people on the bridge, and then stopped behind me and asked if I knew how to get to some restaurant. I unfortunately, say "I don't know" and look to my mom for an answer, and she tells them, and that is that. How embarrassing; I could not think of anything to say to try to get a conversation going. Is there anything you could think of that I could have said in this situation that would have possibly led to a conversation? I know she might just have randomly chosen me to ask, but even if that was the case, I could still have tried to get something going.
I also need to get over the feeling of not being able to talk to girls with my parents around since the facts are I'm out here another 2 weeks and they're with me a lot of the time.
Overall, I am sick and tired of missing GOLDEN opportunities with some of the hottest girls I have ever seen. The girls really are hotter in California.....but I fail to take advantage. There are more examples than the one above, and I don't want there to be anymore in the future. Can anyone help me understand how to be better in sudden and random situations that come from nowhere and catch you off guard? I mean, those situations where you do nothing and all of a sudden there's the hottest girl you've ever seen right there in front of you, and you have no time to think.
I've come on here and read things every now and then and thought wow this is great, but never truly have taken the initiative to change, until now. I am fed up with this **** and need to change. I'm 20 years old and I'm not going to waste these next years because of shyness and inability to act. I am going to read "Double your dating" and the bible. Thanks for any help you have.
20 years old
Virgin (farthest I've gone is making out and handjob, could have gone all the way but she was kinda gross)
5'8, 145 lbs.
I'm currently in California for a few more weeks on vacation, but have failed to meet any girls because of my inability to act. I'm with my parents as well, and my failure to flirt and such only increases when they are around for some reason. I am sick of not having the balls to act, and the feeling I get after thinking "this is the hottest girl I've ever seen" and then failing to act is horrible beyond words. So much regret each time it happens. The problem is, I'm not quick enough on my toes to think of something to say. I need to learn to be ready at ALL times to have a conversation and to flirt with girls. Below is a recent example of a missed opportunity.
Example:
Tonight I was out to watch fireworks with my parents on a bridge, and this hot girl (younger than me, probably 16-17) with a couple other girls walked by some people on the bridge, and then stopped behind me and asked if I knew how to get to some restaurant. I unfortunately, say "I don't know" and look to my mom for an answer, and she tells them, and that is that. How embarrassing; I could not think of anything to say to try to get a conversation going. Is there anything you could think of that I could have said in this situation that would have possibly led to a conversation? I know she might just have randomly chosen me to ask, but even if that was the case, I could still have tried to get something going.
I also need to get over the feeling of not being able to talk to girls with my parents around since the facts are I'm out here another 2 weeks and they're with me a lot of the time.
Overall, I am sick and tired of missing GOLDEN opportunities with some of the hottest girls I have ever seen. The girls really are hotter in California.....but I fail to take advantage. There are more examples than the one above, and I don't want there to be anymore in the future. Can anyone help me understand how to be better in sudden and random situations that come from nowhere and catch you off guard? I mean, those situations where you do nothing and all of a sudden there's the hottest girl you've ever seen right there in front of you, and you have no time to think.
I've come on here and read things every now and then and thought wow this is great, but never truly have taken the initiative to change, until now. I am fed up with this **** and need to change. I'm 20 years old and I'm not going to waste these next years because of shyness and inability to act. I am going to read "Double your dating" and the bible. Thanks for any help you have.