"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Missed a great PU opportunity!

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I got a flat tire tonight and was stopped a long the road trying to figure out the jack on my brother's truck, while it was lightly sprinkling outside. This cute girl pulls up with her GF in a car behind her. I'm caught off guard and feeling a little weak because I'm having such trouble changing a flat, like a girl would. She asks if I was ok. I say "yeah, it's just a flat." She asks if I need to use her cell and gets out of the car.

As I'm calling my brother about his janky jack, I'm thinking that I should get this girl's number. It's not so much that she is gorgeous but just for the opportunity of the situation and the pride of being ballsy enough. Unfortunately, the AFC voice inside of me that I'm usually successful at smothering, pipes up with discouraging words. Plus, as I scrambled to decide whether to ask for the number, my mind went blank and I couldn't think of a smooth way to ask.

After the call, as she starts to get back into the car, I asked her name and thanked her. PERFECT time! Well as you may guess, a minute after she left, I realized, DUH! I should've simply said I was impressed that she stopped to help a stranger and wanted to thank her by taking her out and then got the number. Curses!

Again, it's not losing a chance with this girl that galls me, although the more I think about it, she may have some pretty cool qualities to make her stop like that. But the worst thing is backsliding into AFCness. I thought I had the approach and close under control and that intimate convo was the area that needed the most work. It goes to show that I'm still a work in progress. Ah well, live and learn.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well as you may guess, a minute after she left, I realized, DUH! I should've simply said I was impressed that she stopped to help a stranger and wanted to thank her by taking her out and then got the number. Curses!
:D You won't beleive how many times it happened to me :D

But you'll remember this time when you see a hot chick in the future.

BTW: You may not realize it, but your bro has a caller ID. You have her number, unless it's blocked by default. :D

So make your move playa. ;)
 

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Originally posted by Ice Cold


BTW: You may not realize it, but your bro has a caller ID. You have her number, unless it's blocked by default. :D

So make your move playa. ;)
Hell yea. Call her up! Smart thinkin Ice Cold.
 

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My brother does have caller ID but don't you think it's kind of weak and creepy to call her this way when I didn't have the guts to straight up ask for the digits? Not to flame you guys or anything. I entertained this thought myself.

Maybe I could frame it as the afterthought it was. hmmm. Sucks it's friday tomorrow. I hate to call on a Friday but calling on Sunday could make the afterthought line seem unauthentic.
What do ya'll think? Bend the rules or call on Sunday and act like I just realized the number was on the ID?

However, the main thing was that I backslid. Stressing over the girl, seems to be beside the point. You're right though IceCold, regardless of calling her, I can make the most of this by remembering it during my next opportunity.
 

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Originally posted by AlwaysExcel
I can make the most of this by remembering it during my next opportunity.
Or you can make even more out of this, by remembering that you didn't ask for the digits AND DIDN'T CALL HER WHEN YOU HAD THE DIGITS. :D :D :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well for those who've been closely following this story, ;) I called her up tonight and asked her out, framing it like an afterthought. It didn't feel creepy at all and she seemed genuinely pleased, not creeped out. She said she had a BF though and turned me down. :/ Regardless, it felt good to salvage a screw up and dare what I wouldn't have dared a year ago.
Thanks for your input guys!
 
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