She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Originally posted by joekerr31
so guys, what the key to NOT misreading friendliness for flirting?
is the only way to know to ask a woman out?
or is it possible to know whether she is flirting or just being friendly?
J
Exactly. It can be very frustrating because you want "clear" signals but some women don't care, they want to KNOW you want them regardless of any intentions they may or may not have with you.many girls DO FLIRT when in fact they just want the ego boost.......The only way to know is to ask her out.
YEAH.Originally posted by Tazman
Exactly. It can be very frustrating because you want "clear" signals but some women don't care, they want to KNOW you want them regardless of any intentions they may or may not have with you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.