"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Misguided Motivation.

Alle_Gory

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So I've been doing more introspection into how I got to where I am today. Psychology and behavior-wise. I have periods of extreme energy and mild depression, and they are affected by the environment. Mostly by what people think of me, my interactions with everyone... etc.

So far, my main motivator to improve is to feed my ego. To show off, and one-up the people around me.

It's why I am studying what I am. Finance. To make money.
It's why I go to the gym more often. To look good. Otherwise I would go one a week to stay healthy.
It's why I eat healthy. To help me out at the gym.

The only thing that is not affected by this, is wanting to improve my game with women. That one is instinct.


I can't keep doing this. Too volatile in my actions.

Now what?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alle_Gory said:
So I've been doing more introspection into how I got to where I am today. Psychology and behavior-wise. I have periods of extreme energy and mild depression, and they are affected by the environment. Mostly by what people think of me, my interactions with everyone... etc.

So far, my main motivator to improve is to feed my ego. To show off, and one-up the people around me.

It's why I am studying what I am. Finance. To make money.
It's why I go to the gym more often. To look good. Otherwise I would go one a week to stay healthy.
It's why I eat healthy. To help me out at the gym.

The only thing that is not affected by this, is wanting to improve my game with women. That one is instinct.


I can't keep doing this. Too volatile in my actions.

Now what?
Why do you feel you need to show off and one up other people? You should check that insecurity meter since youre in an introspective mood. People go to school to get better jobs to make money. Fat people exercise to lose weight, skinny people lift to get bigger. What makes you so different from everyone else? YOUR thoughts. Thoughts dictate how you feel. Control your thoughts and you control your emotions. Study finance because youre interested in it and you will earn good money, money you can be things that you desire. Work out because it makes you feel and look good and feel healthy. Do the samething with eating healthy. If you continue to do these things for an extrinsic reason, youll stop sooner or later and probably become more depressed. Fine intrisic motivators for what you do.
 

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The things your after are good things! Don't loose them. What you DO need to do though is supplement those things WITH OTHERS. You need to find how you can HELP PEOPLE while at the same time understanding it IS still ethical to expect back from them. Provide a service that TRUELY helps others yet is still mutually beneficial. I've been were your at and I've fixed the issue once so please understand me here: Base your goals off helping others and you will be givin equal or greater benefits than if your in things for the 'quick sale'. This will take you were you need to go and you will feel much more at peace with striving for the most money/material things out there.

Lemme know what you think bout this
 
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