Minor disrespect from women

[Askaladd]

If your gf/wife gives you minor doses of disrespect and gets upset if you push back, what should you do?

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Gf and wife can sometimes be completely different games. You are 19 according to your profile, so I will assume this about a girl you are dating or girlfriend.

Disrespect is usually some sort of test. Dont be angry at women for testing you, if they didnt do these tests, their body count would be astronomical.

Every time you fail a test, her attraction for you will lower. Every five tests you pass, her attraction will possibly and probably increase.

You must be willing to walk away. If disrespect happens just say something along the lines of "Im not sure if you think Im a some sort of pushover or what but disrespect is a dealbreaker for me. Nip it in the bud or Im showing you the door". I just made that up with random words, Chatgpt can probably give you something better.

Remember, with women you have to punish bad behavior and reward good behavior. When you pass the test you might not get laid that day (or maybe you do) but will get laid more frequently in the future. If you fail a test, you might get laid that day (or maybe not) but her attraction for you will be lower because you failed the test and it will continue to get lower and lower (along with a decrease in sex) if you keep failing tests until she eventually ghosts, breaks up with you or monkey branches etc

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

The keyword is unaffected.

Wheter you decide to politely point at the issues, to take distance till she calms down or troll her to enjoy her emotional explosion, the most important thing is never be or look butthurt.

Also there are compliance test and stress tests which require two different set of skills.

 

[plumber]

whatever you choose do not argue with her. a boss does not argue... disrespect from female is always remove yourself. the length and time of removal is dependent on the situation and details. her disapproval (disrespect) must not have any emotional impact on you.

think weather. if its stormy you get out of the bad weather and perhaps go out again and enjoy when its nice weather. you do not argue with the weather as you well get wet and likely sick from standing in the storm. and the weather does not care what you think. this sounds like a cold hard lens. its key to loosing the need for her approval. you can be kind and even take good care of her without needing her approval.

when its clear that her approval has no effect and only her actions do, the disrespect usually melts away. if it does not you remove yourself more and more and eventually permanently.

 

[jhonny9546]

Remember, with women you have to punish bad behavior and reward good behavior.

We men have a logical mind, and when women talk to us, they'll always catch us off guard.

If you want to stay in your masculine energy, you can't think that every time she tells you something it's a test.

Rather, you should have a "general direction," and if she's trying to get in the way, I think you'll feel more of a gut feeling.

It's not a logical thing, but it will be a physical sensation.

At that point, remember what makes you strong as a man: your ability to have a life without her and to appreciate freedom.

I don't agree with the carrot and stick method even if that works.
But I do agree with explaining to her that you will walk away if she crosses that line.

If you keep failing tests until she eventually ghosts, breaks up with you, or monkey branches, etc.

Well said, and some women will stay with men who have failed all the tests out of convenience, or because they offer them a lifestyle.
That said, I've always wanted to have a skill that I haven't yet developed: understanding what kind of couples are in this situation.

The most important thing is never to be or look like a butt.

It would be interesting to know what you would do if you felt like a butt because of what she did..and how should you have handled it correctly instead


@plumber I get your point, but the weather should be sunny 350 days and rainy or stormy 15.
I don't get the point to win a test but you have to live in a weather with 180 days of rain and 180 days of sun.

 

[plumber]

@plumber I get your point, but the weather should be sunny 350 days and rainy or stormy 15.
I don't get the point to win a test but you have to live in a weather with 180 days of rain and 180 days of sun.

there is no test. that's a bunch of baloney. if she acts clearly in a way that is negative towards you, you create distance and entertain yourself some other way. you frame it in your mind as the weather. do not try to figure out why or what it means or what you should do. simply avoid it, like you do with any bad weather. my advice it not going to help heal her, and not going to fix anything, its only to heal you. when your healthy and of solid mind the choices will be really clear.

if she is creating conflict every other day, then you would end up spending a very small amount of time together to remove that conflict. perhaps you end up spending a few hours together every few days until she move to be negative again. as soon as that happens you move away again. no questions, no argument, no discussion, no apology. go do something else that you need or want to do. if you have no idea how to fill the time that is a problem. in that case find and go to the gym, take an extra job, get into a training class, lots of others. don't be a jerk... just not available to have conflict pushed onto you.

in the extreme you end up spending no time together. if that is the situation you can then make plans knowing that.

we are not trying to fix her or make her treat you well, simply getting your situation for you into a clean calm setup so you can think clearly.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

It would be interesting to know what you would do if you felt like a butt because of what she did..and how should you have handled it correctly instead

In my opinion being affected from other people behviour is mostly a choice, it can be avoided through your overall attitude but in those cases when they hit a nerve and it touches you, the best thing to do is not engage.

Removing yourself from the situation till your biology gets back to baseline and so your thinking.

Worse thing is to engage while in an emotionally disturbed state.

At least that's what works for me.




Example : "You are mad cause you spent so much time and money on me and you didnt even get laid"

Wrong: (staying and engage) "well cause I didnt know you were a slvt only looking for money"

Right: (look unaffected and distance yourself) "yeah agree a bad planning indeed"