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Minor Car Accident Question

Monster

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So I was driving on the highway, there was bumper to bumper traffic, the guy in front of me just stops abruptly and I so I brake, but this Ford Econoline behind me hits me and bumps into me and my car (Civic) rolls into the car in front, a Chevy Cobalt, which then rolls into the car in front of it, a Odyssey. The Econoline just drives off and the three of us pull over. So my car and the Cobalt have some minor ding and scratches. The Odyssey had no damage but the lady was freaking out. The cops come but no report is filed. We all had to exchange numbers and took plate numbers.

So my question is, since this seems kinda like a minor thing, do you think it'll just be swept under the rug? Or would those people call me and ask for repairs, which from my experience fixing up my car would be a very small amount. Should I have just drove away too?

Thanks for any advice/input, it happened yesterday and it's been on my mind.
 

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BMX

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The guy in the econoline should've been the one giving you the insurance information and ultimately the money to get your car damage worked on. In turn you would give the cobalt driver your insurance info and not gain anything from it, an even exchange. Now your insurance has to cover all of the damage on your own car. Though your car is not damaged much like u say, the guy behind you shouldn't have driven off should he? You say no report was filed so everything should be fine, like it never happened.
 

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Minor or not, file insurance claim, tell them what happened.


The guy in econoline could go to jail for living the scene of an accident, it's a misdemeanor, or felony. It could get him fired and in jail. I'd chase after him and get his plate number.

Do you have his plate number?


Basically, you need to file an insurance claim and keep all documentation. Otherwise, if they come after you, any one of them, you will look like a guy in the econoline, accepting all the liability.


Do yourself a favor and file a claim immediately. Exaggerate any damage and include damage not related to this accident (within reason).



As far as driving. Which traffic is most important to look at? Is it in front of you? To the sides? Or the rear? The answer is rear. You should know what's going on in the back of you at all times. Your eyes should be going between looking ahead and looking in the rear view mirror once every 5 seconds, sometimes when danger level is higher more often.

You should have kept enough distance in front of you, in anticipation of just a thing like this. Especially in fender to fender traffic.

But what did you do? I bet you were too close, as if not to let anyone get in front of you. That's aggressive driving, and it brings results like you had yesterday. Don't do it.

You know how women drive? Pan Kitten, etc?? They don't look to the rear, or sides, they only look ahead of them. Fixating their eyes on the bumper of the car in front of them. That's stupid. Every female driver is nuts.


What does it mean to look ahead? You aren't actually looking at the rear of the car in front of you. You looking at that and way ahead. Keeping your distance so that you can see way ahead.


If a car cuts in front of you in this traffic, big deal? That car and you will get to where you going at the same time. AND if you had a bicycle you'd be faster than all those cars in that traffic. While cars in bumper to bumper usually travel 4 mph on average, sometimes way slower, a bicycle can go 25 mph on average. That's a lot faster than a car. Thus you and your comrades in a traffic jam are competing with a bicycle, like a bunch of retards participating in special Olympics.


Invest in a good broadway mirror. Find widest, then go to your car and measure, making sure it would fit between the visors, allowing them to open and close. (otherwise it's illegal) Get a flat instead of convex. Get expensive instead of cheap.
 
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