Ive been having a hard time approaching girls lately and I have to admit that my mind set is not good at all. I follow Tim and all of your advice to not care what other thinks of you but its hard to explain it just doesn’t click. I feel like my mind always tells me that the only way you can approach since you are a beginner is approach at the mall because if you approach at school you will mess up and deal with social consequences and if you mess up a lot will ruin your reputation. If you are a beginner is it recommended to approach girls first at the mall then at school? I know this is pathetic how im thinking but tomorrow is school so i have no chance to approach at the mall n need some motivation. I was following Tim from the flawless natural and listen to how he does his day game which i feel is more appropriate for school. Also sometimes I feel like when i approach girls I will stutter. I don't stutter when i talk to people but I use to stutter a lot when I was young n still feel I have it, which messes me up. Any advice??
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Mindset is JUST MESSED UP!!!
- Thread starter Jamal
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
This is normal, it is all just a confidence problem. Ever played Rock Band? When your friend said "You're up next," even though you had nothing to lose at all, you were still nervous about playing? Then after your first song, you want to keep playing? Same thing applies to everything in life and the same thing applies to your situation. Human beings fear what they don't know because whatever the unknown is it could range from extreme pleasure to extreme pain. Even though we know what the unknown is in this situation, we (or you in this case) haven't really thoroughly experienced what it is like to approach.
It is not about mindset in this case, it is about being a normal human being, fearing the unknown. Throw yourself in the fire and later you'll be able to tame it.
It is not about mindset in this case, it is about being a normal human being, fearing the unknown. Throw yourself in the fire and later you'll be able to tame it.
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I fully approve with the above post.
WAB, great post, that's a great tip, applicable to many things in life. i'm gonna remember that one. Great job! :rockon:
also, one more post til you hit a new milestone!
WAB, great post, that's a great tip, applicable to many things in life. i'm gonna remember that one. Great job! :rockon:
also, one more post til you hit a new milestone!