Hey guys. Been awhile. Have been spending the last year or so sharpening my inner game and working on a few things in my life that had to be fixed before I could really present myself to women the way I'd like to. I'm not done my journey yet however, and so I have a new "afc" question for y'all...
Ok:
So theres this girl... (I wonder how many threads start like this) ...and I want to fuk her brains out. Met her at work, but she's in a different department so its all good. Anyhow I wanted her and so I hit on her. Turns out she is "in love" with her man, who incidentally lives in another continent - she is here in Canada to work for 12 months or so and then going home to move in with her man. This was what I found out in October when I first approached her......So I didn't hit on her further, I respected her relationship and left it at that.
Well one thing led to another and now we are always together. Not romantically, though everyone believes we are. Anyway, so like I said I did NOT hit on her after I found out about the bf. Problem is she is now hitting on me (its a nice problem to have, lol).
She says if she ever cheated she would HAVE to tell him. He calls her daily, she talks about him constantly, he's coming to visit for two weeks soon and she can't wait to see him, and talks about it relentlessly.
THEN WHY, WHY, WHY??? Why does she give me passionate hugs at work? Why does she cuddle with me while we watch movies? Why does she mention cheating on him and how she could never ever do it? Why does she ask me to caress her arms? Why does she put her hand on my leg and rest it there (right near my package)?? Why when she was drunk did she say that maybe shes too young to be in a serious relationship like she is and that she fears she may be missing out some fun in her life?
All of the above things have happened right in front of co-workers or friends, so its hard to escalate. (Whenever she has visited we have had other work people with us), so this is all very much in the open and we haven't done anything deeply intimate like kiss or anything, so she can easily say she hasn't cheated on her man yet.
I know the obvious answer is that she wants me. But picture being in my situation where on one hand she says her and her boyfriend are deep in love, but on the other hand she is palming my thigh...its really f**king confusing.
I am prepared for her bf to visit and to not be able to see her during this time, but I want to get some opinions on the situation.
The way I see it, is that perhaps she DOES love him but is just horny cause she hasn't seen him for so long. And moving forward from that line of thinking I am planning on waiting until her bf goes back home before I even speak to her again. I'm thinking that after a week or two without him she will begin to get horny again and perhaps I could bed her then.
I'd do it now, but he's on his way soon and I don't doubt that she would tell him when he got here. And he could definitely beat the living sh!t out of me...he's a soldier (which, incidentally, is why I didn't slide her hand over to my groin when it was on my leg; I'm not a fighter and he COULD seriously hurt me if he found out; he boxes in the army).
I realize I'm kind of rambling here, but I need someone elses insight into my situation, its getting hard to see the forest for the trees.
Ok:
So theres this girl... (I wonder how many threads start like this) ...and I want to fuk her brains out. Met her at work, but she's in a different department so its all good. Anyhow I wanted her and so I hit on her. Turns out she is "in love" with her man, who incidentally lives in another continent - she is here in Canada to work for 12 months or so and then going home to move in with her man. This was what I found out in October when I first approached her......So I didn't hit on her further, I respected her relationship and left it at that.
Well one thing led to another and now we are always together. Not romantically, though everyone believes we are. Anyway, so like I said I did NOT hit on her after I found out about the bf. Problem is she is now hitting on me (its a nice problem to have, lol).
She says if she ever cheated she would HAVE to tell him. He calls her daily, she talks about him constantly, he's coming to visit for two weeks soon and she can't wait to see him, and talks about it relentlessly.
THEN WHY, WHY, WHY??? Why does she give me passionate hugs at work? Why does she cuddle with me while we watch movies? Why does she mention cheating on him and how she could never ever do it? Why does she ask me to caress her arms? Why does she put her hand on my leg and rest it there (right near my package)?? Why when she was drunk did she say that maybe shes too young to be in a serious relationship like she is and that she fears she may be missing out some fun in her life?
All of the above things have happened right in front of co-workers or friends, so its hard to escalate. (Whenever she has visited we have had other work people with us), so this is all very much in the open and we haven't done anything deeply intimate like kiss or anything, so she can easily say she hasn't cheated on her man yet.
I know the obvious answer is that she wants me. But picture being in my situation where on one hand she says her and her boyfriend are deep in love, but on the other hand she is palming my thigh...its really f**king confusing.
I am prepared for her bf to visit and to not be able to see her during this time, but I want to get some opinions on the situation.
The way I see it, is that perhaps she DOES love him but is just horny cause she hasn't seen him for so long. And moving forward from that line of thinking I am planning on waiting until her bf goes back home before I even speak to her again. I'm thinking that after a week or two without him she will begin to get horny again and perhaps I could bed her then.
I'd do it now, but he's on his way soon and I don't doubt that she would tell him when he got here. And he could definitely beat the living sh!t out of me...he's a soldier (which, incidentally, is why I didn't slide her hand over to my groin when it was on my leg; I'm not a fighter and he COULD seriously hurt me if he found out; he boxes in the army).
I realize I'm kind of rambling here, but I need someone elses insight into my situation, its getting hard to see the forest for the trees.