"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mike's Look & Hairstyle

Mike32ct

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I've been meaning to post a pic to get some feedback. I will keep the pics on here for a limited time for privacy reasons, maybe a few hours or a day tops.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/75217535@N06/

The picture on the right (with the black shirt) was me in late 2010. Actually, that setup worked pretty well for me game-wise.

With my hair thinning, I've gotten away from just spiking the front up and decided to try going back to the all messy look. The picture on the left is me tonight after a hair cut. (Or I could possibly do a more wet look with gel, but that might be too try hard and would look more balding.)

Ignore the cheesy pink shirt. That is just an old shirt that I wore in case they got color on it. My hair might seem a little too dark, but the color will fade in to something close to my natural very dark brown in a week or so.

I also let some 5 o'clock shadow to undo a bit of nice guy-ness.

But overall, what do you guys (and girls) think?

I'm 5'10" 175# with a slender build, but am toning up.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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garruk

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agreed, new look is better. nothing wrong with the pink shirt either.
 

btownbuck2012

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you're a good lookin' mo foe. I think i recall you posted something a long time ago about how u didn't even kiss a girl until you were 27? Hard to believe after looking at those pics. NO HOMO.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I agree with Dust 2 Dust on the sideburns. The second picture is the best, and you look good.
 

Mike32ct

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Thanks everybody. I'm flattered.

Rubato & Dust 2 Dust -- By 2nd pic, do you mean the new pic on the left or older one on the right? I want to make sure I follow.

The sideburns thing is a good idea. I'll have to grow them out some more. I'm greying in that area, but I can get them colored with my hair fairly easily.


btownbuck2012 -- Thanks. Yes it is true that I didn't kiss a girl until 27. Looking back, it was a combination of factors such as being sheltered, having no confidence, and not really trying.


All --- I'll probably leave the pics up until late tomorrow morning, and then remove them from Flicker.

Thanks again.

Any other comments are welcome.
 

HalfAddict

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Now, man, take it from me. If you want to rock that pomp you have to fix that **** up a bit. Just so happens I keep enough grease in my hair to lubricate a chevy big block.

Start with this.
http://www.hawleywoods.com/pd-hawleywoods-layrite-super-hold-pomade-4oz-can.cfm

Worth every ****ing cent by the way, not crappy like gel, not invulnerable like murrays superior and your chick won't whine about it greasing up her pillows.

Maker it shine with a couple dabs of this.
http://www.pomade-shop.eu/Royal-Crown-Hair-Dressing-8-oz/en

Carry a comb and look in the mirror a lot. (not necessary but feels good man)


This stuff smells effing great, just picked some up, makes you smell like ya just left the barber.

http://www.hawleywoods.com/pd_hawleywoods_no_9_aftershave_5_oz_bottle.cfm
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rubirosa

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I don't like the hair just shooting for the sky....I think you should comb it over towards the side somewhat. I feel that a longer "Don Draper" haircut with sideburns would look good. I really dislike the "wings" you have going in the pink shirt pic.
Try Don Draper
http://www.tvfanatic.com/gallery/don-draper-pic/
 

Dust 2 Dust

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I thought you looked better in the right side picture. You could still use the left pic, but spiked hair without sideburns doesn't look good on you or any men for the most part.
 
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