"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Might just delete my online dating profiles

Crissco

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BeDJ said:
Ego much? I've seen your post and I've seen how you responded to them. It's far from the Don Juan mindset. I'm just throwing it out that you easily got defensive - meaning that you may not be as successful as you would like.

I feel I am public enemy #1 because I tend to call out people that pretend. If you were successful in bedding women, would you care if I told you that you weren't? Think about it long and hard.
No im not where i want to be, ill be completely honest, its not because of my lay count, i have enough of that (You can think i pretend, but im not, all my lay reports are legit, im legit), its because of my lifestyle. My job/career. Thats the main thing that's waying me down mentally. Girls come and go I know this. Sh*t happens.

Ive done what i had to do with girls, not 100% satisfied, no, im satisfied that i will never be. But im not obsessed anymore with pu*sy like i used to be. Now its ok, its happens great, doesnt, it doesnt. My goals are focused elsewhere now. On my career.

BTW If i was to go by what u said about me not being successful its because RIGHT NOW at this time, no im not. I still got 5-8 numbers a day, a lot of em flaked yea. But its not where i used to be, so i guess in my mind i took a step back, which is an ego hit.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Crissco said:
No im not where i want to be, ill be completely honest, its not because of my lay count, i have enough of that (You can think i pretend, but im not, all my lay reports are legit, im legit), its because of my lifestyle. My job/career. Thats the main thing that's waying me down mentally. Girls come and go I know this. Sh*t happens.

Ive done what i had to do with girls, not 100% satisfied, no, im satisfied that i will never be. But im not obsessed anymore with pu*sy like i used to be. Now its ok, its happens great, doesnt, it doesnt. My goals are focused elsewhere now. On my career.

BTW If i was to go by what u said about me not being successful its because RIGHT NOW at this time, no im not. I still got 5-8 numbers a day, a lot of em flaked yea. But its not where i used to be, so i guess in my mind i took a step back, which is an ego hit.
Your first paragraph was 'excuses.'
Your second paragraph was 'rationalization.'
Your last one is 'acceptance.'

Seriously, that is the thing with 80% of the poster on here. Yes. I am starting a war with SoSuave:

YOU.
NEED.
TO.
LET.
GO.
OF.
YOUR.
FVCKING.
EGO.

We aren't meant to know everything there is to know about women. That is why we are fvcking here. Let go of that ego. LET GO OF THAT FVCKING EGO. THAT FVCKING EGO WILL MAKE YOURSELF FAIL. let go of it. Listen to what we are saying. Let go of that ego, man.
 

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BeDJ said:
Your first paragraph was 'excuses.'
Your second paragraph was 'rationalization.'
Your last one is 'acceptance.'

Seriously, that is the thing with 80% of the poster on here. Yes. I am starting a war with SoSuave:

YOU.
NEED.
TO.
LET.
GO.
OF.
YOUR.
FVCKING.
EGO.


We aren't meant to know everything there is to know about women. That is why we are fvcking here. Let go of that ego. LET GO OF THAT FVCKING EGO. THAT FVCKING EGO WILL MAKE YOURSELF FAIL. let go of it. Listen to what we are saying. Let go of that ego, man.
I know, its my downfall.
 

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I'm tall but I don't consider myself all that good looking-- I think I am magnetic for some girls but not for others. I had more dates from OKC and POF than I wanted, in about 3 weeks. Nobody got time for dat. I suppose you could date them in parallel with women you met elsewhere, if you really have a lot of time to waste. I bet I could literally have been doing nothing but screwing, all day every day. I stopped bothering with it and realized I was happier lonely.
 

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BeDJ said:
Ego much? I've seen your post and I've seen how you responded to them. It's far from the Don Juan mindset. I'm just throwing it out that you easily got defensive - meaning that you may not be as successful as you would like.

I feel I am public enemy #1 because I tend to call out people that pretend. If you were successful in bedding women, would you care if I told you that you weren't? Think about it long and hard.
Hey at least he is honest on where he is at

Instead of making fairy tale Field reports over rating chicks by by 3 points

:crackup:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Solomon said:
Hey at least he is honest on where he is at

Instead of making fairy tale Field reports over rating chicks by by 3 points

:crackup:
It's petty that you follow my posting trail. Lose weight yet, fatty?
 
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Solomon said:
Everyday I'm shuffling, how is the grenade brigade going mate?

:p
Meh, it could always be better. Got any plans for Halloween?
 

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Is "losing the ego" the new version of catch all advice aka "spin plates"?

How about we cut the hostility, and let the guy learn. Online dating is like a mirage in the desert. You think you're going for a swim, but you just end up getting sand on you d*ck.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Albatross953 said:
Is "losing the ego" the new version of catch all advice aka "spin plates"?

How about we cut the hostility, and let the guy learn. Online dating is like a mirage in the desert. You think you're going for a swim, but you just end up getting sand on you d*ck.
My issues was i was so caught up in the success because i had it for so long i didnt see the other side. I had girls coming over 4 am dude. No problem.

I know alot about seduction, ive been here long enough, read, experienced enough to understand what to do and i most of the time i pull it off flwalessly. My comfort game atleast.
 
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Albatross953 said:
Is "losing the ego" the new version of catch all advice aka "spin plates"?

How about we cut the hostility, and let the guy learn. Online dating is like a mirage in the desert. You think you're going for a swim, but you just end up getting sand on you d*ck.
I have absolutely no sympathy, compassion or mere understanding of guys that b!tch about online dating. It is what it is. There are still those s|utty 6's when you could get yourself an 8 if you tried. Take the hard route. The reason why I bash on Crisco is that he is very able to get 8's but settles for 6's online due to convenience. This thread has gone 3 pages too long....

I doubt men here have banged an 8+ chick from online dating. That's what I'm calling out. If you have, you are in the absolute top 5% of men here. Post pictures screen caps, whatever. it goes back to my ego post. This forum was not for you to exaggerate. It's where you are at the comforts of people trying to make you more successful. The people on here that think they are the sh!t need to take a step back and realize they really aren't.
 

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BeDJ said:
I have absolutely no sympathy, compassion or mere understanding of guys that b!tch about online dating. It is what it is. There are still those s|utty 6's when you could get yourself an 8 if you tried. Take the hard route. The reason why I bash on Crisco is that he is very able to get 8's but settles for 6's online due to convenience. This thread has gone 3 pages too long....

I doubt men here have banged an 8+ chick from online dating. That's what I'm calling out. If you have, you are in the absolute top 5% of men here. Post pictures screen caps, whatever. it goes back to my ego post. This forum was not for you to exaggerate. It's where you are at the comforts of people trying to make you more successful. The people on here that think they are the sh!t need to take a step back and realize they really aren't.
Im really starting to believe your calling people out because of YOUR EGO.

Its a message forum where people help other to get laid, not bash eachother. Get over your self kid.
 
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