You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They broke the John Edwards storyJohnChops said:
k. they have stories about fvcking aliens on their site and in their papers. if it was the Ny times that would be different, but this is junk.applegoo said:
JohnChops said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
shes a scumbag to be honest.applegoo said:
Yeah. It's not good when you have the international media reporting on you flirting with another girl. Of course it will piss off your partner.zekko said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
must make you feel good about yourself insulting people you don't know onlineTheCWord said:
They, literally, dragged the rest of the national media to the Edwards story, including the New York Times, a publication that blatantly ignores news unflattering to politicians it likes and has, in the past, blatantly fabricated stories unflattering to politicians it doesn't, notably s sitting president during a re-election campaign. The same campaign, oddly enough, that Edwards was running in. None of the above is political opinion, but raw facts. I don't give creedence to what's in the national enquirer either, but the fact is, their recent record on political scandals has been accurate, which is not something that can be said of the new York times. Why that paper retains any credibilty at all is beyond me.JohnChops said:
Exactly. Rep.Don_Dom said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Did you see how fat she got.....she was dying!!! They were right!!!! And who says aliens don't exist? The do....... Aberascal99v said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.