"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Metaphor Regarding Approaches

naes

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Think of an approach as being a free slot machine with extremely good odds. Let me explain..

So you're wandering around a free casino, looking around to see which game you want to play. Would you just sit there and not play any of them? NO!! Thats free money! Sitting there doing nothing would guarantee that you lose at all the games and go home empty handed. Instead, you would run around pulling every handle and rolling all of the dice because theres absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain!

It is the same way with approaches. Inaction is guaranteed rejection so why not atleast take a chance at success?

There truley is nothing to lose unless you do nothing.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I try to think of the old Wayne Gretzky quote. "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
 

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wow how did you come up with that, this should be put in the bible, iv heared many posts convey the same thing but not quite like this. I love the analgy, its so strong, i am going to try and rmember this one.
 

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BUMP!

id like to have more people read this.
 

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I agree. That's a good analogy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Haha, this post hit me hard.

NICE! Keep on bumping.

Add a sticky. This is PRICELESS.

Enough for anyone to see an approach completely differently.
 

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not bad.

although i would find a different metaphor for girls rather than "slot machines"

as people tend to associate slot machines with lifeless old people hooked up to oxygen tanks wasting their life savings one nickel at a time.

how about approaching girls is like you are in control of a beautiful yacht (your body) and you are on a luxurious fishing trip (female population) and every time you cast your line you increase your probabilty of snagging the girl of your dreams.

in contrast if you keep telling yourself "i'll cast it when the conditions are perfect" you will never cast because the conditons will never be perfect. The right time to do anyting is right now. You will find the necessary tools to complete your tasks as you proceed in your journey.
 

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I love this metaphor, nice one :D

Originally posted by naes
Think of an approach as being a free slot machine with extremely good odds. Let me explain..

So you're wandering around a free casino, looking around to see which game you want to play. Would you just sit there and not play any of them? NO!! Thats free money! Sitting there doing nothing would guarantee that you lose at all the games and go home empty handed. Instead, you would run around pulling every handle and rolling all of the dice because theres absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain!

It is the same way with approaches. Inaction is guaranteed rejection so why not atleast take a chance at success?

There truley is nothing to lose unless you do nothing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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