"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Metamorphosis: Boy to Man

612_Da_Playa

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I would like to aim this more toward the older guys here but I guess guys my age (19-21) can comment as well.

I'll be to the point because who likes reading an ungodly amount of black font on white background? The thesis is in bold below.

I'm 19. A sophomore University student at a local University in Washington, DC. Engineering student to be exact.

My first year I thought I had found the ONE smh. We broke up. My grades suffered freshman year earning me a spot on academic probation. My social dynamics have never been great. However I am good-looking.

My point being: I came to a point in my life where I was unsatisfied with were I was. My grades. My game with girls. My body. **** I was lowkey depressed and relentless at the world. BUT, being away from home(Minnesota) and away from my family I believe benefits me in the long run. I mean my father and grandfather became "men". It's like a secret in society. You want to be a man but don't exactly know how to approach it. I want to lift and body build. I want to gain more friends. Be respectable in my community. At the age of 20 what steps were you guys taking to becoming men and realizing your potential and reality?

I know life is a process and that easily can be forgotten in our microwave society today. However, I am hopeful and know that if I can believe it, I can achieve it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FairShake

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612_Da_Playa said:
You want to be a man but don't exactly know how to approach it. I want to lift and body build. I want to gain more friends. Be respectable in my community. At the age of 20 what steps were you guys taking to becoming men and realizing your potential and reality?
Physical fitness is key. So is loyalty, self-sufficiency, reaching goals, overcoming fear.
 

Lexington

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Yup, I've noticed that doing some sort of manly physical activity definitely helps. It puts you in touch with your masculinity. I started going to the gym about a year ago and since then I've gone through a lot of changes. I feel like a men and less like a boy.

In times past, men would go hunting, fight wars, work the fields or do some other kind of physical activity. These kinds of activities are sorely absent from the lives of many men these days. The closest they get to that is watching a football game while chugging beers and munching on potato chips.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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