Met two great girls at a party... found out they were friends at the end

[Gaijin90]

Hey guys, thanks for any advice you can give on this topic.

So I met two great girls at a party yesterday (technically met a lot, but these two were my favorites). I enjoyed talking with the first one (girl A), got her contact information and moved on to to talk to other girls at the party. As the night is coming to a close, I see this one really cute girl (girl B) I wanted to talk to for a while standing off to the side and go to introduce myself. We click immediately and are having a great conversation when all of her friends come over to grab their stuff since the party is ending. And that's when I see the other girl I was talking to in her friend group... I confirm they are friends and play it off like that's cool when deep down I'm of course disappointed. So I need some advice on how to proceed with this.

This friend group of six or seven college girls were actually all really attractive (8/10). I knew some of them were together, but didn't realize they were all friends obviously. So girl A is someone who under any other circumstances I would definitely want to date, but girl B and I really did click more and she has a slightly more entertaining personality. I don't want to ask out girl B though, have her say no and end up being ignored by girl A because I didn't choose her first. I also don't want to be seen as a "bad" player guy by them both and have them both block my number. This group of six or seven girls are so attractive that I'd date any of them so being cautious seems like the best approach as I'd rather be friend zoned by girl A and B so that I could still meet up with their friends, than have them both end up seeing me as a player and blocking me.

So what would you do in this situation? The party was last night and I figure a bunch of guys will message them today so I'll stand out if I wait a day or two to message them (also gives me more time to think). Ideas I have (haven't dealt with this situation before):

1. I could text them both at almost the exact same time, and see who answers back. It's possible that one will just ignore me or take forever to respond showing low interest.

2. I could text girl B and ignore girl A (destroying my link to a great girl...) It's also possible that girl B might have other guys in the picture she likes more than me.

3. I could not text either for two days and see if one reaches out first. However, we are in Japan and that rarely if ever seems to happen to me with Japanese girls so I don't know if that's a valid option.

4. This doesn't seem like the right thing to do, but I could try to act like I want to hang out with both of them and basically sort of friend zone myself. I could probably determine who likes me more in a smaller group setting or the dominant one might make it clear that she's taking me.This has happened to me before with two twins I met here in Japan. Obviously they were both cute, and when I met up with them a second time the dominant one was giving me all of her attention and the submissive one kept her distance and basically ignored me.

Thanks for your thoughts!

 

[Gaijin90]

Thanks a lot for the advice man! All good points. Don't need to worry until I know there's an issue.

 

[The Duke]

Get them to compete for your attention while you remain very neutral and flirt with both equally. Eventually, one of them will ask you if you like her.

I once had a once night stand doing this.

 

[devilkingx2]

hit on them both, then cool it with the one that responds less positively so you don't blow it with the other one

the easiest thing to do is ask them both out once you're in the right position (at roughly the same time) and see which one says yes and doesn't flake)

 

[Gaijin90]

Thanks for the additional advice! So currently the difference in their response time is negligible and they are both basically mirroring my text length with their own. So I have two additional questions:

1. Should I ask them about their group's friendship in a round about way to determine how long they've been friends and how close they are to each other? It's possible that the two girls in question aren't directly close to each other but instead close to other girls who keep the group together.

2. What's the best way to subtly flirt with them both? Making comments about their appearance (or how they looked in their costumes since it was a Halloween party) and then completely changing the topic in the same text? I don't usually flirt in text as I just use the phone for setting up dates (I mention meeting up when I grab their contact information. Didn't do it this time).

 

[TheGambino]

Just be sociable with both and check out the waters. The one that responds best with ioi’s is the one You chose

 

[devilkingx2]

1. Should I ask them about their group's friendship in a round about way to determine how long they've been friends and how close they are to each other? It's possible that the two girls in question aren't directly close to each other but instead close to other girls who keep the group together.

pretend you didn't even know they knew each other

2. What's the best way to subtly flirt with them both? Making comments about their appearance (or how they looked in their costumes since it was a Halloween party) and then completely changing the topic in the same text? I don't usually flirt in text as I just use the phone for setting up dates (I mention meeting up when I grab their contact information. Didn't do it this time).

just do what you always do to get girls then ask out the one it seems to be working on,

there is a near 0% chance that you'll actually get both girls and have to maintain two relationships at once, it's not something to worry about, just ask them both out for different times but text them at around the same time.