"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Met this girl at a party

ssj4halo

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Okay this happened a LONG time ago. I met this girl in February at my party. We talked a lot, walked around the apartment several times(holding hands the whole time for about 1 hour). Then we went back in to the party took a shot with a friend and made out. She then danced with one of her friends(guys). A **** test? I passed it nicely by just not caring and dancing along. She then invited me to join in. After I while It was just me and her dancing. Then we sat down on the coach and talked for a long time. She had to go so gave me a goodbye kiss and headed out with her friends. I got her number too. Two days later her FRIEND calls my friend, and tells her this chick wanted to come over and have sex with me(she was totally drunk). She ended up not coming. I played hard to get and didn't call her for the first week. Then, sent some texts and got a date set up(dinner).

Dinner came by and it was a disaster. I totally AFCed up and was too nervous to even TALK to her. We talked about nuetral topics and it went bad. Her friends called her in the middle and she immediatly hung up without answering. I dropped her off at her place(no kiss or anything). I said I'll call her after break and didnt. Its been like 6 months since then. Why didnt I call her? I was too much of a ***** then, I was emberessed about how I acted at that dinner. Should I talk to her again?? Im not "falling" for her or anything. Just think it would get me back in the game/practice.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I am a little confused...

So you haven't talked to her at all in the past 6 months?

Regardless, go ahead an re-open the communication bridge. Things may have changed and, if nothing else, it will serve you good "practice".


Good Luck!
 

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no I haven't talked to her. I go to college right now(summer time). I think she went home for summer, but I am still here taking classes.

I didn't talk to her for the past 6 months becuase I thoguht I "failed" and I didn't want to make a big deal of it. Now though, I am much more confidant in myself(been working out a lot, and some other stuff)

Anyways, Thanks!
 

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dude that was ****ing six months ago... I don't remember most girls that i have had sex with six months ago let alone several... you should get over her because she is obviously taking you out of alignment with meeting other women.. Believe me there are hotter cooler sexy er and funner girls that are out there waiting for guys like you to come take them..
 

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Yea, I was just kinda emo. I came to the conclusion that If I can get this chick I can get anotehr one again. So i went to safeway right at that moment..check out my field reports i just posted :]
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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