"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Met this girl at a party

ssj4halo

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Okay this happened a LONG time ago. I met this girl in February at my party. We talked a lot, walked around the apartment several times(holding hands the whole time for about 1 hour). Then we went back in to the party took a shot with a friend and made out. She then danced with one of her friends(guys). A **** test? I passed it nicely by just not caring and dancing along. She then invited me to join in. After I while It was just me and her dancing. Then we sat down on the coach and talked for a long time. She had to go so gave me a goodbye kiss and headed out with her friends. I got her number too. Two days later her FRIEND calls my friend, and tells her this chick wanted to come over and have sex with me(she was totally drunk). She ended up not coming. I played hard to get and didn't call her for the first week. Then, sent some texts and got a date set up(dinner).

Dinner came by and it was a disaster. I totally AFCed up and was too nervous to even TALK to her. We talked about nuetral topics and it went bad. Her friends called her in the middle and she immediatly hung up without answering. I dropped her off at her place(no kiss or anything). I said I'll call her after break and didnt. Its been like 6 months since then. Why didnt I call her? I was too much of a ***** then, I was emberessed about how I acted at that dinner. Should I talk to her again?? Im not "falling" for her or anything. Just think it would get me back in the game/practice.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I am a little confused...

So you haven't talked to her at all in the past 6 months?

Regardless, go ahead an re-open the communication bridge. Things may have changed and, if nothing else, it will serve you good "practice".


Good Luck!
 

ssj4halo

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no I haven't talked to her. I go to college right now(summer time). I think she went home for summer, but I am still here taking classes.

I didn't talk to her for the past 6 months becuase I thoguht I "failed" and I didn't want to make a big deal of it. Now though, I am much more confidant in myself(been working out a lot, and some other stuff)

Anyways, Thanks!
 

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dude that was ****ing six months ago... I don't remember most girls that i have had sex with six months ago let alone several... you should get over her because she is obviously taking you out of alignment with meeting other women.. Believe me there are hotter cooler sexy er and funner girls that are out there waiting for guys like you to come take them..
 

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Yea, I was just kinda emo. I came to the conclusion that If I can get this chick I can get anotehr one again. So i went to safeway right at that moment..check out my field reports i just posted :]
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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