"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There is a girl i've been talking to online for 8 years and I finally met her this weekend with our friends. We had a great time and I made out with her. She lives about 6 hours away, and I'm willing to work at having a LDR. She said she had a great time with me but wants to figure out things with her ex boyfriend first. I told her how I felt about her and left it at that. What do I do now?

P.S. We didn't plan on ever meeting. We just happened to be going on vacation to the same place the same day.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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samspade said:
What's so great about this woman that you want to have an LDR with her while she works things out with her ex-boyfriend?
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BULL3TPR00F said:
There is a girl i've been talking to online for 8 years and I finally met her this weekend with our friends. We had a great time and I made out with her. She lives about 6 hours away, and I'm willing to work at having a LDR. She said she had a great time with me but wants to figure out things with her ex boyfriend first. I told her how I felt about her and left it at that. What do I do now?

P.S. We didn't plan on ever meeting. We just happened to be going on vacation to the same place the same day.
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Translation: "I want to know for sure if my ex-boyfriend, whom I put above you quite easily, is really over me, then and only then would I consider graduating you beyond your current status as my plan b/c/d/e. Until that fateful day, tell me me more about my eyes...."
 
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I'm willing to work at having a LDR
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You cannot do proper emotional maintenance on a woman you don't see regularly.

She said she had a great time with me but wants to figure out things with her ex boyfriend first.
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Her ex has a better chance at having a relationship with her than you do.

Use long distance chicks for occasional lays. It's useless to attempt building a relationship over distance.
 
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BULL3TPR00F said:
There is a girl i've been talking to online for 8 years and I finally met her this weekend with our friends. We had a great time and I made out with her. She lives about 6 hours away, and I'm willing to work at having a LDR. She said she had a great time with me but wants to figure out things with her ex boyfriend first. I told her how I felt about her and left it at that. What do I do now?

P.S. We didn't plan on ever meeting. We just happened to be going on vacation to the same place the same day.
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Normally, I would say that you two have invested in this over the years and have been chatting for so long because it's safe and neither one of you has to get close, to know real intimacy.

However, you're both kind of young, so my first guess may be wrong here. Bottom line, close relationship > LDR.

Seek closeness and intimacy as they are the best ways to grow as a person, LDR's not so much.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Her ex BF lives further away than I do and they haven't dated that long. But she's known him for a while because it's her cousins friend.
 
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Any woman who said that shyt to me wouldn't see me for dust. GTFO OP, don't waste your time on any woman who doesn't make you a high priority.
 
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You are heading for the friendzone. She's not that interested. Go talk to other women.

Case closed.
 
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