“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Met Online Girl After 8 Years

BULL3TPR00F

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There is a girl i've been talking to online for 8 years and I finally met her this weekend with our friends. We had a great time and I made out with her. She lives about 6 hours away, and I'm willing to work at having a LDR. She said she had a great time with me but wants to figure out things with her ex boyfriend first. I told her how I felt about her and left it at that. What do I do now?

P.S. We didn't plan on ever meeting. We just happened to be going on vacation to the same place the same day.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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samspade said:
What's so great about this woman that you want to have an LDR with her while she works things out with her ex-boyfriend?
This
 

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BULL3TPR00F said:
There is a girl i've been talking to online for 8 years and I finally met her this weekend with our friends. We had a great time and I made out with her. She lives about 6 hours away, and I'm willing to work at having a LDR. She said she had a great time with me but wants to figure out things with her ex boyfriend first. I told her how I felt about her and left it at that. What do I do now?

P.S. We didn't plan on ever meeting. We just happened to be going on vacation to the same place the same day.
Translation: "I want to know for sure if my ex-boyfriend, whom I put above you quite easily, is really over me, then and only then would I consider graduating you beyond your current status as my plan b/c/d/e. Until that fateful day, tell me me more about my eyes...."
 

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I'm willing to work at having a LDR
You cannot do proper emotional maintenance on a woman you don't see regularly.

She said she had a great time with me but wants to figure out things with her ex boyfriend first.
Her ex has a better chance at having a relationship with her than you do.

Use long distance chicks for occasional lays. It's useless to attempt building a relationship over distance.
 

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BULL3TPR00F said:
There is a girl i've been talking to online for 8 years and I finally met her this weekend with our friends. We had a great time and I made out with her. She lives about 6 hours away, and I'm willing to work at having a LDR. She said she had a great time with me but wants to figure out things with her ex boyfriend first. I told her how I felt about her and left it at that. What do I do now?

P.S. We didn't plan on ever meeting. We just happened to be going on vacation to the same place the same day.

Normally, I would say that you two have invested in this over the years and have been chatting for so long because it's safe and neither one of you has to get close, to know real intimacy.

However, you're both kind of young, so my first guess may be wrong here. Bottom line, close relationship > LDR.

Seek closeness and intimacy as they are the best ways to grow as a person, LDR's not so much.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Her ex BF lives further away than I do and they haven't dated that long. But she's known him for a while because it's her cousins friend.
 

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Any woman who said that shyt to me wouldn't see me for dust. GTFO OP, don't waste your time on any woman who doesn't make you a high priority.
 

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You are heading for the friendzone. She's not that interested. Go talk to other women.

Case closed.
 
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