"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met an Ideal Girl, but Did I BLOW it?

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So here's the deal...last week I met a very cute brunette, established interest, and got her number.

I tell her we'll meet on Saturday.

Saturday rolls around and due to banging another chick beforehand (and not getting much sleep), I am very tired and really don't feel like I'm in good shape to meet this girl for the first time.

As a result, I had to cancel on her.

The thing is that she seemed VERY VERY excited to meet me for the first time. I mean, she was practically thanking me over the phone like I was one of the coolest guys ever.

I also was excited to hook up with her and seeing how it goes, and I did actually feel sorry for cancelling on her. I could tell she was dissapointed by her voice.

Anyway, I told her that I'm still excited to see her, that Saturday just wasn't a good day, and that we'll definately see each other this week.

But I am worried that cancelling on her may have dramatically dropped her previously really high IL.

Any ideas or comments?
 

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Yes you are probably right about the IL, BUT try to get her to think about whatever it was that attracted her to you in the first place. That might ignite the spark, so to speak. GL.
 
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Yeah, I'll try to do that. She seemed interested in me enough that I can still get to her.
 
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But I am worried that cancelling on her may have dramatically dropped her previously really high IL.
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If anything I think this would have the opposite effect and may even possibly amplify her attraction!

Think about it.. it shows you had other things to do (genuinely) like a DJ would, you are not desperate, you could take it or leave it etc... cute brunettes are not used to guys 'blowing them off' like this so to speak.

So long as you set up another date soon, I'm sure her IL will remain at least at the same level.
 
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ya just set up another date soon to "make it up" to her and make it seemed like you are a nice and considerate guy
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ya just set up another date soon to "make it up" to her and make it seemed like you are a nice and considerate guy
 
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Make up a good funny story to why you had to cancel. Put it into the meet if she asks. Otherwise just keep her with the intrest
 
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oh come on, guys, girls are human beings and they are not made of steel, a self good high-value for us at the beggining is great!!! but once u had committed to that date, she got pissed off when u cancelled it, it´s not she doesn´t like you anymore, it´s just that u made her self-value get down, and now she may think your status is too high to her, she may even feel miserable about it.
I was going to post a thread about this, but i´m glad you posted it before, my case is a similar one: one girl imagines stories about me and she was willing me to get into the game and but i didn´t(lazyness and keeping the high-prize at the same time)and i can read by her body language that she feels miserable now: she looks up to me and and she also keeps leaning in when she walks around me . I don´t know if u could give some advises to the guy who post the thread and me at the same time, could be helpful for both of us
 
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Re: Re: Met an Ideal Girl, but Did I BLOW it?

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If anything I think this would have the opposite effect and may even possibly amplify her attraction!

Think about it.. it shows you had other things to do (genuinely) like a DJ would, you are not desperate, you could take it or leave it etc... cute brunettes are not used to guys 'blowing them off' like this so to speak.

So long as you set up another date soon, I'm sure her IL will remain at least at the same level.
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Listen to James on this one, he knows the deal.

How many times have girls cancelled on guys and made them feel like $hit? Hey, it's not your fault you have a life and girls to satisfy! Good job!
 

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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If she is really into you, she'll gladly give you another chance. But if you want in her panties, dont blow her off twice, and let her know you felt bad about cancelling, as you fondle her inner thighs with your tongue.
 
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