"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Met a girl who was interested and did the mistake of adding her to facebook

Jaforfan

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Hello!

So, I met a girl last weekend and we definitely hit it off at a party outside of the city. Ended up spending 1-2 hours making out and some fondling (couldn't go further because of other people and she had to leave later). I took her number and before she left she said she was going to drink in the city this friday. She was also the one initiating which people reacted to since she's usually quiet from what I was told.

I haven't talked to her since, though I added her on facebook yesterday. Which I realize was a stupid move given I already have her number and I'm barely on that site. How should I approach her? Talk to her on fb or text? I prefer talking in person so the ideal would be to not talk too much and meet up on friday, but how do I cement that meeting?

I would really appreciate any advice from you more experienced people.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Delete Facebook or make private groups for actual friends and never post anything on a "timeline", basically turn facebook into a short profile and nothing more.
 

Nickface

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I'm only posting in the thread because you did something I dislike the most. Not coming here to bash, just give a dose of tough love. Facebook is single handily the worst thing created for trying to progress with a chick. You find out things you don't want to, you stress over the stupidest comments, and you will see all the guys that post on her page. All this being said, your not in so deep so you can get out right now!

I for one, would deactivate Facebook all together but I'm certainly not asking you to do that. I would delete her now and only contact through texting/calling. You got it right by saying that you shouldn't chat with her much and do it more in person. You have to remain both interesting and a mystery. Text her you want to meet up and take it from there but please OP, don't do anything through Facebook!
 

Kbish828

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Don't delete her from facebook. She will notice and this is even sketchier. But like they said above, stay off facebook and don't post things to your timeline. Also, do not check her page. Nothing good comes from this. And of course, do not contact her via facebook
 

Yewki

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Adding a girl on Facebook is like willingly talking to the cops without a lawyer after having committed a crime. You're going to incrimidate yourself, unless you rarely use FB and your page is squeaky clean... in which case, why would you care about adding her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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