"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Met a girl who was interested and did the mistake of adding her to facebook

Jaforfan

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Hello!

So, I met a girl last weekend and we definitely hit it off at a party outside of the city. Ended up spending 1-2 hours making out and some fondling (couldn't go further because of other people and she had to leave later). I took her number and before she left she said she was going to drink in the city this friday. She was also the one initiating which people reacted to since she's usually quiet from what I was told.

I haven't talked to her since, though I added her on facebook yesterday. Which I realize was a stupid move given I already have her number and I'm barely on that site. How should I approach her? Talk to her on fb or text? I prefer talking in person so the ideal would be to not talk too much and meet up on friday, but how do I cement that meeting?

I would really appreciate any advice from you more experienced people.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Delete Facebook or make private groups for actual friends and never post anything on a "timeline", basically turn facebook into a short profile and nothing more.
 

Nickface

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I'm only posting in the thread because you did something I dislike the most. Not coming here to bash, just give a dose of tough love. Facebook is single handily the worst thing created for trying to progress with a chick. You find out things you don't want to, you stress over the stupidest comments, and you will see all the guys that post on her page. All this being said, your not in so deep so you can get out right now!

I for one, would deactivate Facebook all together but I'm certainly not asking you to do that. I would delete her now and only contact through texting/calling. You got it right by saying that you shouldn't chat with her much and do it more in person. You have to remain both interesting and a mystery. Text her you want to meet up and take it from there but please OP, don't do anything through Facebook!
 

Kbish828

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Don't delete her from facebook. She will notice and this is even sketchier. But like they said above, stay off facebook and don't post things to your timeline. Also, do not check her page. Nothing good comes from this. And of course, do not contact her via facebook
 

Yewki

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Adding a girl on Facebook is like willingly talking to the cops without a lawyer after having committed a crime. You're going to incrimidate yourself, unless you rarely use FB and your page is squeaky clean... in which case, why would you care about adding her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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