i met a girl last night through a friend. she was being really flirty with me all night (holding hands as we walk around the place, kept taking pictures together, dancing together etc.) and then i find out shes been dating some dude for about a month. she gave me her number at the end of the night and has been texting me today. im no expert but im pretty sure this chicks into me. how do i handle the her having a bf thing? after seeing how she was with me last night, i can see her dumping him pretty soon...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
met a girl thats into me but has a bf. how do i handle this?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Just act like she doesn't have a BF. Whenever she mentions it ignore her.
I thought Falcon had left the site? I recall about 50 drama queen threads about your much-anticipated exit... Back so soon?
Just play it like the guy isn't there. The catch is don't get so involved that you're worried about the outcome regarding whether or not she leaves the guy or not. Leave that up to her. If you enjoy your time with her, she puts out, pays her own way, and doesn't give you drama, then just keep working it. If at any time you find yourself being used or played, drop the girl quickly. Generally you will lose the "him or me" battle if you bring it up.
Just play it like the guy isn't there. The catch is don't get so involved that you're worried about the outcome regarding whether or not she leaves the guy or not. Leave that up to her. If you enjoy your time with her, she puts out, pays her own way, and doesn't give you drama, then just keep working it. If at any time you find yourself being used or played, drop the girl quickly. Generally you will lose the "him or me" battle if you bring it up.
powpow
Senior Don Juan
1 month boyfriend? Come on man get your **** together this means nothing.
general rule
single? hit that
has a boyfriend? hit that, and steal/ditch at your own discernment. Ive stolen a girl from her boyfriend before. twice.
engaged/married? off limits.
general rule
single? hit that
has a boyfriend? hit that, and steal/ditch at your own discernment. Ive stolen a girl from her boyfriend before. twice.
engaged/married? off limits.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MikeBrown30
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Can we please refrain from using the words "homosexual" and "gay" in our posts from now on. I keep getting google ads for gay matchmaking sites, no doubt from Falcons posts. Didn't you make your last post a week ago?Falcon25 said:
dementia
Senior Don Juan
yea.. 1 month isnt a real boyfriend... its 2 people dating with a label... probably initiated by him in order to try and manipulate some kinda ownership... Ownership that she isnt really taking seriously...
I second the Ignore and pursue motion! here here!
I second the Ignore and pursue motion! here here!
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Leave the taken women alone, are you trying to boost your ego or something?
This is only the 1,233,734 post I have read about a "girl with bf into me/flirtin with me/giving me signals" and I have yet to read about anyone on here actually steal her from the bf!!!
and the reason is simple. I would venture to say 99% of these females are just using the poor guys here at sosuave as ego boosters plain and simple.
When it comes to a girl with a bf it's really simple, PUT OUT OR SHUT UP!
Get her to put out or shut up, it will answer all your questions you have with her.
More than likely she is not going to put out cause she's using you for her attention fix. She might not be getting enough attention from her bf so she'll use other guys to satisfy her ego...but she'll still ride him at night not you.
and the reason is simple. I would venture to say 99% of these females are just using the poor guys here at sosuave as ego boosters plain and simple.
When it comes to a girl with a bf it's really simple, PUT OUT OR SHUT UP!
Get her to put out or shut up, it will answer all your questions you have with her.
More than likely she is not going to put out cause she's using you for her attention fix. She might not be getting enough attention from her bf so she'll use other guys to satisfy her ego...but she'll still ride him at night not you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.