"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met a girl, got laid, ditched her, and now I feel like sh!t...

SuperAlbert

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Few weeks ago, I was at the bars with some buddies and one of my buddies was expecting a few of his lady friends to come along. One of them caught my eye and once we made contact I knew it was on. It wasn't even the end of the night and she asked for my number already. It was great. The whole night we were together, her IL was off the roof.

Then, a few days later she calls to say hi and I said I'm busy and I would have to call the next day. I do that and the next day I made her suggest a day that she's free and just like how I learned from this site, I said no and made the date the next day. I wanted to get her to work into my schedule instead of the other way around.

Our date went really well. We talked about alot of things which included alot of passion and feelings. This way, I was able to convert all of that into something sexual. It was going so well that I was in the middle of my sentence and she kissed me! Caught me off guard but I thought to myself "money shot."

We hit it off really well and after our second date, she was already on my bed.

Everything is going fine and dandy, but then I learned that she also had a little girl. Not only that, she just got out of a 6 year relationship with another dude and it's only been 2 months she's been single.

I thought it over for a long time but I figured I had to break it off before I get way into her as she is already way into me. She even said that she loved me. Hell, it's been only 2 weeks... hello rebound.

I don't know about you guys but usually I wouldn't sweat too much about it and move on to the next girl. But the problem is that I'm feeling like ****. For one thing, unlike the other girls I dated... I actually like this one. The chemistry between her and I is phenomenol. Everyone says we're great for each other. Damn.

Usually, I make good judgments to keep myself in check but this is one of those times that I wish I knew if I'm really making the right decision of leaving her. It's really eating me up inside.

So yea, I really need some input from you guys so I can put myself together again. I'm sure some of you guys have been in this scenerio a few times. Help a brotha out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Phoenix_of_the_ashes

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You need to tell her this. She has to know that you didnt just "take her for a ride", but that your just not prepared for the situation which she will put you through. You have a good, rational reason for breaking it off.

She will either understand of not, based on how mature she is, but you should tell her.
 

flexion_

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Lets step back for a moment:

1) You had this instant connection with her
2) She had this instant intense attraction to you
3) Your both had a lot of intant passion and feelings in your discussion
4) She has a kid (divorced, separated or other)
5) She told you she loved you within 2 weeks of meeting her
6) Phenomenal chemistry

Dude this girl is probably has a Borderline Personality Disorder or is Bipolar. Beware those instant click situations - remember if its too good to be true then it probably is...
 
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